That de Camp is one such frustrated monogamist is made clear by his remarks
at a recent convention that he wishes now he had taken advantage of more of
the sexual opportunities of his youth. (My companion of five years, Pam
Troy, works for Locus, so I get to hear all this juicy gossip.) This is
classic in its demonstration of dogmatic monogamy leading eventually to a
feeling that much greater pleasure could be had with multiple partners, and
a wistful longing that one had indulged in this much greater pleasure.
Note that I am not advocating sexual promiscuity for everyone. I am almost
entirely monogamous myself. What I am saying is that the suppression of
non-monogamous sexual desires doesn't work; pushing energy into the
subconscious only makes it stronger at a later date. These desires, even if
they are never acted on, should be treated as natural and good, a part of
life, and then the fatal suppression into the subconscious mind will not
take place; so sexual desire will not become warped as it obviously has in
de Camp's case.
Tim Maroney, Electronic Village Idiot and Damn Proud of It
Warning! Dogmatic responses will be ignored, or, more likely, insulted.