Fwd: Be aware when the urge to nag, judge and criticize arises..

[dineshbachkani]

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Date: Mon, May 12, 2014 at 7:04 PM
Subject: Be aware when the urge to nag, judge and criticize arises..
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Be aware when the urge to nag, judge, criticize arises. 

 

When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person: it merely says something about our own need to be critical.

 

Being critical not only solves nothing; it contributes to the anger and distrust in our world.

 

After all, no one likes to be criticized. Our reaction to criticism is usually to become defensive and/or withdraw. A person who feels attacked is likely to do one of 2 things: he will either retreat in fear or shame, or he will attack or lash out in anger.

 

How many times have you criticised someone (even in good intention) and had them respond by saying, "Thank you so much for pointing out my flaws. I really appreciate it."?

 

Criticism, like swearing, is negative energy, nothing more than a bad habit. If we take a moment to observe how we actually feel immediately after we criticise someone, we will notice that we will feel a little ashamed, almost like we are the one who has been attacked. The reason is that when we criticise, it is a statement to the world and to ourselves, "I have a need to be critical." This is not something we are usually proud to admit.

 

The solution is to catch ourselves in the act of being critical. Notice how often we do it and how bad it makes us feel. Turn it to a game, on catching ourselves being critical and the need to criticise arises, try to say, "Here I go again." Hopefully, by making more awareness, we can turn our criticism into tolerance, patience, empathy and respect.