to Theresa
living life and loving it
I read your letter in the other group. Inshaallah things will get
better. I understand what you are going through.It is very hard to get
through the honeymoom stages when they husband is away. I did the same
thing. I would want to talk to him, but when he would call I was more
hurt and angry that happy to talk to him.
In time these feelings pass. Right now everything is new and the pain
is raw. I know for me it didnt take too long to get over it. It seems
like there is always a different hurde to jump withthese types of
marriages. I mean once we get over one there is another right behind
it.
I am coping with my own issues now, but for a strange reason it is not
too bad. I feel a bit down but i refuse to let the get me. It will not
be the focus of my thoughts. I am just allowin mysef to love my
husband and allowing him to love me without pushing him away or
holding up walls to protect me. I made up my mind that I will trust
himt o be a better husband to be than before. I will allow him to make
choice and do things without thinkign about how it will affect me
first. His other marriage counts also and I really have nothign to do
with it. even though he telles me everything, well 80% of things he
does not have to and end the end they are his choices and his
marriage. So why bother myself with it. I love him and I know he loves
me. I will not push him away anymore becuase of my insecurities and
fears. I know he is a good husband and I want to stay married to him
period. This is what u have to say to your delf.
you have to let go of the past.accept that he is someone eleses
husband and he has a nother marriege. you have to allow himt o do
whatever he needs to do for that marriage and trust him to always love
you an dbe the same husband or a better husband that before. Now if he
starts to mistreat you then we will have talk 2....but until he stops
giving you your rights....just love him.
Teresa
On Apr 7, 2:43 am, "living life and loving it"