But first, the solution is NOT to discourage women from going to graduate school, apply to academic jobs, or have children. It is also NOT to give students unsolicited advice not to couple with other graduate students.
Basically, what I asked was how does this apply when considering gay couples? My partner is finishing her PhD, I have my MA, and we plan to move for a temporary time while I get my PhD in awhile. But how do you work with the two-body problem when the state government might not recognize you? When do you come out in the hiring process?
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