Looking for a nursing home SW Mpls - Ruchifield, Edina, Bloomington area.
D.A.Tsenuf
We need to start looking for a nursing home for her.
They are both 80+ and she has been losing mobility and the ability to care
for herself/
He has been doing all the work, but it's reached the point where he's
overwhelmed
But things are reaching the point where intervention is required
Most convenient would be the SW Minneapolis, Richfield, Bloomington, Edina
area.
At present we're not sure about finances, because my father-in-law has been
resisting getting help from his kids.
But there should be quite enough to cover such an expense
Suggestions, advice appreciated
WDS
Have you looked at in-home assistance?
Brian Elfert
>My mother-in-law, a prize of a mother-in-law, is not doing too well
>We need to start looking for a nursing home for her.
I believe her doctor would need to determine a nursing home is needed.
>At present we're not sure about finances, because my father-in-law has been
>resisting getting help from his kids.
>But there should be quite enough to cover such an expense
If their assets become exhausted the state will pay for medically
necessary nursing home care. If a surviving spouse is still living at
home the state will take that into account.
Would assisted living work better for the two of them instead of a full
blown nursing home? They'll get all meals in a dining room and a minimal
level of nursing care. (Nursing care is mostly dispensing of meds.)
Hell Toupee
Be sure to check out the Nursing Home Report Card:
"Choosing a nursing home for yourself or a loved one can be
challenging. This Nursing Home Report Card gives information to help
you make your choice. You should also consider other sources of
information, visit the nursing homes being considered, and discuss
your choices with family members and staff members of the facility.
This report card shows how Minnesota nursing homes scored in seven
quality measures. Each nursing home is scored from 1 (lowest) through
5 (highest) on each of the seven measures. For additional information
about the report card go to the nursing home report card fact sheet
(pdf, 5 pages, 53k).
First, you can focus your search by choosing your preferred area of
the state by zip code, or click here to see the report card for an
individual nursing home."
http://www.health.state.mn.us/nhreportcard/
I would also phone your county and ask if they can do a needs
assessment for your in-laws. That's where a social worker visits and
evaluates them in the home, then meets with the family to recommend
what kind of care or assistance could help keep them in the home. It's
a good place to start, especially since they can give you the names of
local agencies and programs that can provide things such as
house-cleaning, adult day care, and respite care for the provider (in
this case, your father-in-law).
Melba's Jammin'
"D.A.Tsenuf" <D...@Tsenuf.com> wrote:
> My mother-in-law, a prize of a mother-in-law, is not doing too well
> We need to start looking for a nursing home for her.
:-( That's a situation no one looks forward to.
> Most convenient would be the SW Minneapolis, Richfield, Bloomington, Edina
> area.
> Suggestions, advice appreciated
Everyone I know has been impressed with Ebenezer Ridges in Burnsville,
bar none. There's a waiting list and I don't know how quickly one moves
up the list.
My sister was at Martin Luther Manor in Bloomington off E. Old Shakopee
Road and I guess her daughter was okay with that.
My MIL was at Augustana at the edge of downtown Mpls but not in their
nursing home care; she liked her apartment living well enough.
I hope you'll find something that satisfies all your requirements and
needs.
--
-Barb, Mother Superior, HOSSSPoJ
http://web.me.com/barbschaller - Who Said Chickens Have Fingers?
10-30-2009
David Gresham
D.A.Tsenuf <D...@Tsenuf.com> wrote:
a few years ago my wife and I had to find a home for her father. A place
called 'www.aplaceformom.com' was a no-fee referral service that helped us
find a place in Hopkins that was great.
Dave
D.A.Tsenuf
"WDS" <Bi...@seurer.net> wrote in message
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We're beyond that stage for a variety of reasons
Most important of which is my father-in-law has been trying to do it all by
himself, and is unwilling to relinquish control
WDS
>
> "WDS" <Bi...@seurer.net> wrote in message
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>
> We're beyond that stage for a variety of reasons
> Most important of which is my father-in-law has been trying to do it all
> by himself, and is unwilling to relinquish control
I feel for you. My FIL was the same way and my MIL suffered because of it.
D.A.Tsenuf
They are both sweet and generous people
(Adopted and raised 5 kids)
Could not have found better in-laws
They put all the bad tales of in-laws to shame
But my hands are tied, in this
I'm only able to do the groundwork to help my wife.
My Brother and I went through the same thing a few years ago with our own
parents.
Luckily for us they were much more willing to listen to us.
I promised myself that if I did a good job on my kids, I'll trust them when
the time comes (Cross fingers).
Melba's Jammin'
"D.A.Tsenuf" <D...@Tsenuf.com> wrote:
> "WDS" <Bi...@seurer.net> wrote in message
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> > D.A.Tsenuf wrote:
> >>
> >> "WDS" <Bi...@seurer.net> wrote in message
> >> news:hcph5s$r5h$2...@news.eternal-september.org...
> >>> Have you looked at in-home assistance?
> >>
> >> We're beyond that stage for a variety of reasons
> >> Most important of which is my father-in-law has been trying to do it all
> >> by himself, and is unwilling to relinquish control
> >
> > I feel for you. My FIL was the same way and my MIL suffered because of
> > it.
>
> They are both sweet and generous people
> (Adopted and raised 5 kids)
> Could not have found better in-laws
> They put all the bad tales of in-laws to shame
> But my hands are tied, in this
> I'm only able to do the groundwork to help my wife.
>
> My Brother and I went through the same thing a few years ago with our own
> parents.
> Luckily for us they were much more willing to listen to us.
> I promised myself that if I did a good job on my kids, I'll trust them when
> the time comes (Cross fingers).
Yahbut by the time that time comes you won't remember if you did or did
not and you won't trust them to act in your best interest.,
Spreading joy and sunshine where'er I go.
Melba's Jammin'
"D.A.Tsenuf" <D...@Tsenuf.com> wrote:
It's been a week. Any resolution?
D.A.Tsenuf
"Melba's Jammin'" <barbsc...@earthlink.net> wrote in message
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>
> It's been a week. Any resolution?
>
The suggestion of
http://www.aplaceformom.com/
produced a wealth of possibilities, some of which were eliminated because of
level of assistance available.
I've already visited a couple of places in Edina.
Still a couple more to see in Boomington.
And there are others that I'm considering visiting
The real blockage is the kids themselves not willing to stand up and say,
"it's time for a change" to their parents.
I can only sit back and watch that part, and do groundwork so that at least
they know what they are facing in
choices.