And I have no hesitation in accepting I am a sex addict. I have been taken home by a woman 15 years older than me from a pub. I have had orgies with friends I have known for over a decade. I have got calls from woman who wanted to cheat on her husband (implying they wanted to sleep with me).
Most people think that this is just too weird to be true. Let me tell you a truth, its not.
I am an average looking guy, over weight by 3–4 Kgs, so I dont have a six pack or a muscular built. But I know I look good, I can hold intelligent conversations about pretty much any thing under the sun.
Here’s why I think I am able to pull it off, without trying too hard.
I accept the fact that I am a sex addict. I am not secretive about it when I meet women. If you are in the constant fear of being judged for something that you desperately want, you are going to act weird at every step. And that’s why most men don’t get laid.
I don’t hit on every girl I meet. I respect women. I would only flirt if I sense that she may also be interested in who I am. But I am open about my lifestyle and I do tell them that I like casual encounters. Usually they laugh at such a thing.
I make a lot of new friends. And I end up sleeping with some of them.
Here’s what you should do :
Make new friends. Meet woman in bars, in gyms, in concerts, in comedy shows. Basically wherever you can. Like genuinely make friends. Stay in touch. Meet them for movies. DONT THINK SEX.
Tell them that you are into casual encounters. Tell them you slept with someone you met at starbucks last week. Tell them your fantasies. Just share. Like a funny story, nothing else.
If they seem to be interested, you may start flirting. Otherwise you just made a good friend you can be open with. Cherish the friendship part of it. You’ll end up having fun, and that’s the second best thing to have.
The key to this approach is to accept that you love having sex a lot and be vocal about it.
I met a girl 4 years ago during an IPL cricket match, went for a party later that night and had a blast. She was dating someone back then and didn’t seem too interested in a casual encounter so I laughed it off. We never spoke after that, but we had each other’s phone numbers. I got a call from her 3 months back and she wanted to catchup. We met in a bar and ended up in my apartment the next morning.