My apologies for the delay in replying.
I don't disagree with your comments from the last email.
My comment on gravity and the ontology of scientific claims as quoted in your comment above is indeed obscure and in need of elaboration. In Newtonian mechanics there is a force of gravity and the laws of motion which can be shown to be true by experiment (for example, Cavendish calculated G, the universal constant for gravity, by 'observing' and measuring the effects of the the attraction of two steel balls) and by sending people to the moon. Although these laws are true (at the macroscopic level), this is not to imply the ontological claim that gravity is a force (and indeed, force does not exist, it is our way of representing the interaction of two bodies). Similarly with GR: Is gravity a bending of space-time instead? Maybe, although one day GM may be superseded by a different theory in which gravity is not a bending of space time. The point is, because of the incommensurability of different paradigms, no ontological claims by any paradigm can be substantiated.
In public I am a hard-nosed materialist but in 'private' (so to speak) I am a non-representative realist purely because ontological claims cannot be made by scientific theory (although at the end of the modelling process can there be any talk of a correspondence between the model established and reality. The correspondence theory is fraught with difficulty so I am prepared to concede this point). I am in the 'closet' with regards realism because in order to understand science a distinction has to be made between appearance and reality (the wall of perception) even though that distinction, that wall, doesn't actually exist. In making that distinction science explains the other side of the wall. But since we are matter reflecting on itself we can only explain matter 'in our own terms' with reference to what lies beyond this 'wall' that doesn't exist. There is no correspondence between theory and reality prior to any final model; the theory is merely a way for us to get to grips with the reality 'beyond the wall'. Now this does seem like a form of instrumentalism, that scientific laws and the theoretical objects of science are merely tools in describing the world and have no correspondence to anything real. However, if science is merely a way to describe the world then the truth of science is limited to that description with nothing from the other side of the wall to show why the description is adequate (after all, the world is only known to us through each description - we cannot compare each competing description with the world itself). But that wall doesn't exist, so we can say that science is merely our way of describing or explaining the world in our terms. The realist element is purely the ontological claim that the universe exists beyond the wall (and for the materialist the universe exists without that wall), but that does not mean that the laws and associated theoretical objects of a paradigm have an ontology.
This is a very complicated issue. If, like Mach, we regarded electrons as mere fictions, then what is it we experience when we stick a metal fork into an electric socket with our bare hands? My answer is what we term current (of electrons), which in a sense exists but not necessarily in the way we conceive them to be.
The centre of gravity of any body does not exist; it is a point where the force of gravity is imagined to act. However, the force of gravity acts on the whole object and not as a line acting at the centre of gravity. So even if we agree that force exists (personally I think it doesn't), then the concept of force has to be modified so as to apply the concept to bodies in order to calculate a result. In other words, if force exists it doesn't exist in the way theory uses it, so the ontological claim cannot really be substantiated.
I hope that clears it but get back to me if it doesn't.
Best wishes,
Stuart