I'm afraid any motif that involves an inexact match is going to be washed out in your data. With so many exactly duplicated sequences, DREME is going to end up reporting motifs that are the longest allowed exact matches to portions of the input sequences, more or less in order of the frequency of the matching parent sequence. Running DREME on the top N reads might not be a bad idea for spotting motifs common to all the sequences. However, the estimations of statistical significance reported by DREME won't be meaningful, since you are skewing the sequence data. You might also trying running multiple iterations of DREME, setting the kmax and kmin options to 3-6 in turn. For example
dreme -p big.fa -mink 6 -maxk 6
dreme -p big.fa -mink 5 -maxk 5
dreme -p big.fa -mink 4 -maxk 4
dreme -p big.fa -mink 3 -maxk 3
The mink and max options control the minimum and maximum width of motifs that will be considered. The results will still be dominated by exact matches to the sequences, but it might help you spot exact matches common to more than one of the families of sequences.