Without a competition setting which someone turned the family bed into during the Victoria Secret years, like Victoria Justice demanding the sweet finish like her sister Adriana Lima, since as Titans they must get the sweet finish, as Titan queens, stand back everyone, a little further back that's it, everyone knows Adriana Lima is the queen of the earth and a mythological figure, one of the Seven sisters of the Pleiades.
And they are royals so you see that sets up a good competition for match making as the other ladies try to raise themselves up to some status level without infringing on their demands.
As long as they get the sweet finish they are happy to share.
And so then I date all the other Victoria Secret angels as well. Which works very well for me.
So I never complained about them making my bed into a competition.
My daughters however as supermodels themselves of course merely fell into the cultural trap and made the snuggle side of the bed their goal.
Something to dress up for, to look good for, to work towards to wish for and to inspire them.
Those who need a bit of competition.
Or those who need the snuggle side or feel the need for the status in the pecking order.
Yet they are more reserved about it except in those instances.
Now it also shows up when they want their own day. And many have their own day. So then that helps me remember to pick them up even if they don;t sign me or if I don't see it.
I just look at the calendar and then those same people I pick up that day.
And then check for signing when I can.
After a couple years of signing every week they often get a day of their own that they share with compatible sisters.
And there although compatible to a large extent in many ways they still like to compete.
In two cases. Savy and Diletta.
So Diletta re engineered their snuggle side game and made the snuggle side the other side of the bed. The cold dark and lonely side of the family bed by asking me to wait five minutes then roll over and we will sleep on our other side that night. lol
And that seemed to solve that problem. Savy and Maisie never got that far with Savy really upset about not getting the snuggle side at times.
Even though they took turns. One year Maisie, one year Savy, that only worked for 4 years.
It might have worked better one week Maisie one week Savy.
Maybe we shouldn't experiment with our children. lol As I say I am no anthropologist yet. Maybe if I was I would have known what to do but I can Deja Vu them if I have to.
But that is about all the excitement we had in those 5 years. Other than than that competition as stated it was all perfect equality as far as I could manage.
Granted some did not sleep over as often as the rest. But we can make up for that later.
We did the best we could.