We are the ones who suffer when
we hold on to past grievances.We give the situations and the people in our
past power over us, and the same situations and people keep us mentally
enslaved.They continue to control us when we stay stuck in
''unforgiveness''. This is why forgiveness work is so important.
Forgiveness -letting go of the ones who hurt us-is letting go of our
identity as the one who was hurt.It allows us to be set free from the
needless cycle of pain, anger,and recrimination that keep us imprisoned in
our own suffering.
What we forgive is not the act, but
the actors-we are forgiving their suffering ,
confusion,unskillfulness,desperation, and their humanity.As we get the
feelings out and let them go, we can then move on.
Remember that all of the events
that take place in our lives and all of the individuals we encounter teach
us valuable lessons.
