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Throughout my childhood, I repeatedly heard "You're just like your father," whether that was related to mannerisms, physical appearance, or interests. This was most frequent, or maybe just the most annoying, during my early teens, a time when Dad and I were working together constantly and regularly spat about a number of things.

Following a fairly lengthy period of introspection late into high school and throughout college, I developed my own views of the world and discovered what was important to me and the person I wanted to be. All of this was crystallized after I started my own family and started putting my ideals to work.

Hi! I was wondering if Godot had a type of online multiplayer code that could send a message to any game open on the same LAN, that is not with rpc(). For example in making an online server browser, you want to send a message to every game instance that a new game was made, if that makes sense. Basically, I was wondering if there was a type of code that could send a message to every game open (Even if they are not in an online game server together).
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Since you seem to know a lot of that kind of online stuff. How easy would it be to make an app in Godot to send emails and upload or change google spreadsheets ? Like download spreadsheet data and present it in the app and make changes and upload changes to spread sheet. That kind of stuff.
Im thinking a of a management app.

I been meaning to do something similar to AppSheet too. A spreadsheet manager, that is shown to the user as a simple form to add records on a mobile device. How much do you think someone would charge to just do the basics of getting data from a spreadsheet into an array. And then a fucntion to upload changes? i would do all the data view layouts and ui stuff.

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People do not natter on because they long to be known in their full humanness. People do not post selfies on social media because they long to be known in their full humanness. But people do write memoir for this reason.

David Brooks also wrote in How to Know a Person:

A great post with many Brook(e)'s in it, but you brook no argument against the memoir genre! I so agree. Even though I wrote my memoir during the lockdown, as perhaps many did, I found the process to be healing and revelatory. Even more amazing: Since I wove in feminine quest archetypes from folk and fairy tales, I then became more aware of that universal layer and its power. Now I'm teaching classes on the heroine's journey and finding a rapt audience in translating its ancient motifs to their life story.

Whenever a prominent person takes a potshot at memoir, I hear about it from my students, or come across it online in various memoir groups I\u2019m a part of. Last week, Arthur C. Brooks\u2019s The Atlantic article, \u201CWhy You Maybe Shouldn\u2019t Write a Memoir,\u201D landed in my inbox and in my feeds more than a few times. It made already-discouraged writers of memoir feel worse about their tender desire to write their stories. The piece followed a tried and true formula of taking aim at what I\u2019ve often called \u201Cthe genre people love to hate\u201D by criticizing the person behind the effort. The message in this article is this essentially: If you want to write memoir, you\u2019re self-centered; if you are thinking about your memoir, you should reconsider because you\u2019re probably just addicted to talking about yourself.

Brooks\u2019s argument, in a nutshell, is that being self-referential and talking about yourself is bad for you. It triggers the same part of your brain that makes people addicted to sex and gambling and alcohol. So, if you want to be mentally healthy, maybe you shouldn\u2019t write a memoir. Connecting the problem of people talking about themselves too much and memoir writing is tenuous, though, if not lazy, as the two are not necessarily correlated. Some writers of memoir do probably self-reference too often in their everyday lives; others, I assure you, do not. Some memoirists are at home sharing every intimacy and personal detail online; many others are not.

Our culture promotes a me-centeredness that\u2019s conflicting for most of us. Social media breeds self-centric behavior by rewarding us for it, and as writers, we\u2019re supposed to be building our platforms and our brands\u2014so we do it. Some people are fueled by these efforts, while others learn to make peace with the reality that it\u2019s part of what it takes to be and become a writer/author. Brooks writes that 80 percent of all social media posts are posts about ourselves, and anecdotally from what I see on my social threads, this feels about right. What he didn\u2019t note is that the algorithms and our own reactions promote self-centric posting. A good friend of mine who\u2019s a well-known author shared with me recently that whenever she posts a selfie on Instagram, she gets thousands of likes, whereas when she posts articles she writes, she often will get just a few hundred likes.

But let\u2019s try, if we can, to look at memoir on its own and for its own merits. Memoir is not an extension of what Brooks (with clear disdain) describes as \u201Cnattering on about yourself.\u201D Memoir is not a series of self-promotional or self-congratulatory or look-at-me social media posts. In his article, Brooks references a publisher who said about memoir, \u201Ctoo many submissions are \u2018just the writer\u2019s own story, which is ultimately boring.\u2019\u201D

What I\u2019m really looking for now are beautifully written memoirs that have some universal resonance. That\u2019s what I think is the problem with most memoirs \u2013 there is nothing universal there. It\u2019s rather just the writer\u2019s own story, which is ultimately boring. Unless there\u2019s some poetry or beauty to a memoir, it\u2019s really just another blog.

This is a more inspiring message, insofar as this publisher is/was actually looking for memoirs, and most memoirists are in fact striving to create something beautiful that has universal resonance. Are there amateur writers out there who submit their work before it\u2019s ready for prime time? Of course. Are there self-published authors who have published their stories of \u201Cwhat happened\u201D in their lives with no effort at universal takeaways for the reader? Yes. Are these freshman efforts representative of the genre of memoir? No.

Interestingly, it\u2019s another Brooks\u2014David Brooks\u2014to whom I\u2019m turning this week to supplement my counterpoints to Arthur C. Brooks. In David Brooks\u2019s new book, How to Know a Person, he wrote something quite profound, that mirrors what Linda Joy Myers and I teach our memoir students in our classes:

Later in the book, David Brooks shares the story of Frederick Buechner, whose memoir, Telling Secrets, is about losing his dad to suicide and his lifelong journey to come to terms with his grief. In his memoir, Buechner wrote, \u201CWhat we hunger for, perhaps more than anything else, is to be known in our full humanness, and yet that is often just what we also fear more than anything else.\u201D

It is important to tell, at least from time to time, the secret of who we truly and fully are. Because otherwise we run the risk of losing track of who we truly and fully are\u2014and little by little come to accept instead the highly edited version which we put forth in hope that the world will find it more acceptable than the real thing.

This is where the juice is. In memoir, writers tell the secret of who they truly and fully are. There is benefit here to the writer, but not only to the writer. I\u2019ve read thousands of memoirs, and I know I\u2019m a better and more empathetic person for it. I\u2019ve entered into the body, heart, and lived experience of people of different races and ethniticies and cultures, of people from different socioeconomic backgrounds and lived experiences. Memoir, at its best, is both an invitation and a gift from the writer to the reader. It says, Come see. Come take a look around. What do you see here that informs your life? That broadens your understanding of what it means to be human?

This invitation to your reader is important for writers to keep in mind, of course. A memoir should not just be the \u201Cwhat happened\u201D version of your story, though this is where all memoirists start. You work the craft to uncover the beauty, the poetry, and the universal takeaways for your readers that are interwoven into your life experience. There are countless memoirs that do this well,* and if you\u2019re writing a memoir, you can do this, too.

So yes, you should write a memoir. And try not to be discouraged by the naysayers. They\u2019re always going to be there\u2014now, during the writing process, and after your book is published. And they have no bearing on your story, your will to finish it, nor the lives you will touch once your book is in the hands of its readers.

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