Thanks to all of you whom helped me, and an apology. we were sailing along nicely and had a fouled spinnaker halyard at a rounding, causing us to sail into never never land until it was freed as well as some observed me in a back brace groveling on the deck for a wayward main sheet (don't ask).
Anyway I blurted out a profanity, one of two issued that night, one was at a start with a very aggressive crew member whom I thought was trying to push my boat (he wasn't)
Anyway, I think we have the boat there, but someone needs to flog the skipper into shape.
Ed