Best Of R Kelly Mp3 Mix

[Assunta Gergely]

Peoplehave always strived to build a better mousetrap as soon as there were proverbial mice. The Virtual Mobility Coach program is just the latest rendition of this. Humans are clever. It has always been so.

I realized that just 10 minutes of moving in a time and environment I could control before it really mattered was a game changer. If I could control before it really mattered, I ended up feeling better when it did matter.

This means, tomorrow when the window opens for us to actually move, we will be more easily ready to quickly spin up and go. I also add in 10-15 min of soft tissue mobilization from The Virtual Mobility Coach before I go to sleep on busy days.

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Kelly states in the foreword of his book that much of his advice was gleaned from elsewhere so I decided to track down where this one might have come from. Legendary concert promoter Bill Graham used a similar phrase in a banner describing the Grateful Dead at a 1991 concert for the band:

Love this. The corollary of this (which I joke about with my photographer friends) is that the longer I hone in on this thing that I do pretty well (in my case - make portraits of famous people in very short amounts of time), the less qualified I become for basically anything else :)

I'm less excited by this idea. It has a solid message. While there's an exclusivity to this belief that's inspiring, it can also be isolating for younger people who are searching for a place and for what life brings us in adulthood. Being the best, being the only, can denigrate work for others just as lofty.

I've been an executive for over a decade and an art and technology director before that. With my weird educational choices and career direction, it's hard to define to my family what exactly I do. But that niche I carved out isn't what matters or what gives me purpose. It's not *just* the refinement of skill and craft. Proving a skill in one area got me here. But I don't organize my life around a bucket of rarity in vocation.

When I mentor younger people, I want them to dig for purpose and passion, and I want them to refine that purpose for life, for sure. But I don't want them to sit under a platitude about doing what they love or what they are best at. I don't want them to lean on Kant that great skill must be fulfilled for some purpose. Desires to be best or the only don't serve that purpose.

I work with a guy who has spent his entire life doing crop irrigation. He will talk to you for hours about his craft, how it established him, how he raised his family, how he looks forward to the seasonal change. That man isn't the best or the only, but he learned to *do* what he loves. And he found a sense of meaning not from some ultimate direction, but from what he felt he had to do. What inspires me is not to achieve an exclusive sense of purpose or a novel position in life, but finding joy and purpose in what I do. Whatever the hell that may be.

My first response was "screw this guy". I mean, I understand broadly where he's coming from, but the message falls into "the perfect is the enemy of the good" . There's 8 billion people on the planet, and the likelihood that anyone is going to be the only anything is minuscule. Defining success as achieving something almost unattainable for a mere mortal does everyone a disservice.

Even scaling it back to something like "Be the only person you know who does what you do" is putting the bar far too high. I think I'm very good at my job and I'm proud of what I've done, but I'm not even "the only one" in my 200-person division of my company.

Similarly, limiting it to work in creative endeavors is also damning. I started seriously pursuing at photography seven years ago, at age 50. I'm finally getting decent at it, but I have a job, a wife, and other time-consuming hobbies. I'm never going to be any kind of "only" in photography (my next door neighbor blows my doors off just using his phone, the bastard). I already have to contend with the futility of creating images in a world of Gen-AI, and now I gotta be a one-among-billions superlative to have any meaning?

So yeah, screw that guy. I'm sure I'm making a straw-man out of his actual point (not having RTFA), but I still think even saying what's in the pull-quote above earns him my scorn. That kind of exceptionalism worship trivializes the work and life of everyone who's just trying to get by and maybe improve themselves in the process.

Echoing others' thoughts - I did a presentation to middle schoolers about my (winding, singular) career path and current work last year. One of the teachers pointed out to me afterwards how much privilege had been at play to make all of this possible. Yes, point taken. Being the only one is not achievable for everyone.

It takes a lot of hard work to be "the best", but it takes an insane amount of bravery to be "the only", because, at a certain point, you're Cortez burning the ships behind you. This is part of the reason that I'm rooting for and supporting Jason.

Being the only doesn't have to be about achievement or global in scale. We all know people who are irreplaceable in our communities because of the lives that only they have lived, the experience only they bring, the example they set just by being comfortable with themselves and others. "Living it out" and reaching that escape velocity is something many people can do in all sorts of ways and areas of life, regardless of power. privilege, or position.

That's fair, although I think it may speak to some of the confusion about what 'being the only' really means. I don't want him to give me a narrow definition (a one-size-fits-all exercise without much value), but I'd like to know what things cluster around this idea for him. What is only to him? How can you be this thing? How can you know it? Can others, too, be only?

And, more broadly, the point Kevin Kelly is making is that, all things being equal, it's often better to be differentiated/unique than good at something where you must compete with a mass of people. I'll never be "the only" one of anything, but hopefully I can carve out a niche that makes it easier to compete.

I first took this to mean something that I intuitively understood as a teenager: I'll never be the best guitar player, but I can definitely be the best guitar player who is also a writer, actor, film buff and nonfiction reader. Combine your interests in a unique way.

Similarly a friend once said he preferred Jimmy Page to Jeff Beck because Jimmy was the total package: player, composer, producer, etc. He's the only guy who does all those things that particular way. But Beck is still the pinnacle of his own style. He may not be a producer or composer, but as deliverer of melodies on a guitar, he is the only.

I love the Bill Graham quote about the Dead and couldn't agree more. They were the only ones traveling incessantly playing improvisational dance music that included the audience in the performance. Now, of course, there are dozens of others trying to do the same thing.

I do like that idea, and Kevin's, although it feels that in both cases being "the only", or "staying on the bus", is automatically a good thing, or a way to achieve success (however you define that for yourself). But I can imagine people could work their whole lives becoming more distinctive at their particular niche but not necessarily end up doing something useful, beautiful, interesting, or even distinctive.

To me this is a such an outgrowth of a capitalist mindset. (I say this as a US-ian.) I see the meaning behind it, but I also do read a darker message. I don't want a society of people striving to be the Only. I want people striving to move forward, and then leaning back to pull up the next generation onto their shoulders. A society of Onlys will fail, because everyone will be trying to out-niche each other instead of working together. I don't want to be the Only, I want to be the Next.

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