LOVE WORKS DAILY 06/04/07 - STUMBLING OVER YOUR BRAIN
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LOVE WORKS DAILY 06/04/07 - STUMBLING OVER YOUR
BRAIN
Happy June To You! Wishing you best of blessings
in this first month of summer!
INSPIRATIONAL MOMENT:
(Great Thoughts By History's Inspired Thinking Men and Women)
(Great Thoughts By History's Inspired Thinking Men and Women)
TIM's BLOG
(Random Thoughts and Tim's Daily World):
Today has been a tough one. But today has also been
a great one. (How's that for being cryptic?) Actually
the thing that WAS is no longer. So I have no ability to
refer to it anymore. I have released into the care of another,
and I no longer have to carry it. It's an amazing thing....
release ... and worth giving a try from time to time.
a great one. (How's that for being cryptic?) Actually
the thing that WAS is no longer. So I have no ability to
refer to it anymore. I have released into the care of another,
and I no longer have to carry it. It's an amazing thing....
release ... and worth giving a try from time to time.
Now that I have said something. About nothing. I will move
on.
LOL! (What was I talking about anyway...???)
LOL! (What was I talking about anyway...???)
FOOD FOR THOUGHT:
(Brand New and Classic Love Works Essays 2001-2007)
(Brand New and Classic Love Works Essays 2001-2007)
Today is a new beginning.
Today you start again!
Today you can wake up, and do the same thing you did yesterday or do
something else....something new....something better.
something else....something new....something better.
A saying that is common in our household is, "Every road leads to
another, all roads take you home."
another, all roads take you home."
It means, to me, that we are on a journey and that indeed the journey
does have a destination. You are headed in the right direction.
does have a destination. You are headed in the right direction.
Wherever you go, there you are!
If you look closely enough, you can see that destination. But the
traveling there, should come at ease. A sort of meandering way of
living.....stop when you get there...move on when that part of the
journey is done.
traveling there, should come at ease. A sort of meandering way of
living.....stop when you get there...move on when that part of the
journey is done.
But today, I address the issue of stumbling blocks or stepping
stones.
Do you keep stumbling over stumbling blocks? Is it happening again and
again?
again?
As I've written before, my family usually takes a long "wandering"
automobile trip each summer. We do go in a general direction, but we
make no specific plan.
automobile trip each summer. We do go in a general direction, but we
make no specific plan.
When something clearly interesting presents itself we explore it, when
a roadblock or traffic jam arrives, we go around it go some other way.
We look for these little signs to tell us where the trip is supposed to
go. Our only mistakes have been when we used our BRAINS too much and
our HEARTS too little.
a roadblock or traffic jam arrives, we go around it go some other way.
We look for these little signs to tell us where the trip is supposed to
go. Our only mistakes have been when we used our BRAINS too much and
our HEARTS too little.
If we do believe in signs, or destiny, or the will of a higher power,
many of us are looking for thunderstrikes and atomic blasts to light our
path. And sometimes an atomic blast does APPEAR out of nowhere to change
your course. That is worth examining.
But often, it's the many many little things, that totaled up, that
give us the answers we are looking for.
many of us are looking for thunderstrikes and atomic blasts to light our
path. And sometimes an atomic blast does APPEAR out of nowhere to change
your course. That is worth examining.
But often, it's the many many little things, that totaled up, that
give us the answers we are looking for.
Stumbling blocks are part of those little answers. Do we keep stumbling
and stumbling with the hope that in some distant day we
will find solid ground or our correct destination?
and stumbling with the hope that in some distant day we
will find solid ground or our correct destination?
Or do we acknowledge that we are stumbling, over and over, and it is
not and will not get better?
not and will not get better?
When do we make that decision?
How many times do we stumble before we either fall, or step over the
stumbling block and turn it into a stepping stone?
stumbling block and turn it into a stepping stone?
I don't like to keep stumbling!
I don't want you to keep stumbling!
I don't want you to keep stumbling!
And here's some reasons why I think people ignore the inner voice and
use REASONING to make bad decisions, and keep hitting roadblocks.
use REASONING to make bad decisions, and keep hitting roadblocks.
There is a fundamental conflict between the heart and the mind. The
mind tells a person to keep trying something, that the failure must be
for lack of trying. The heart knows the difference.
mind tells a person to keep trying something, that the failure must be
for lack of trying. The heart knows the difference.
This has lead to terrible business and investment failures, as the
principle members continued to keep the venture afloat long after the
heart is no longer leading the way.
principle members continued to keep the venture afloat long after the
heart is no longer leading the way.
This has lead to endless wars and political strife.
It has lead many people to stay in abusive and neglectful
relationships
for much too long. If she could just do THIS or do THAT, everything
would change, it would all be like it was, it would all be better
again. But the heart knows....it's fear and the intellect that keeps
the person in an endless cycle of bad situations. The brain says, I
know he loves me, why can't I change enough to make it right. It must
be my fault.
for much too long. If she could just do THIS or do THAT, everything
would change, it would all be like it was, it would all be better
again. But the heart knows....it's fear and the intellect that keeps
the person in an endless cycle of bad situations. The brain says, I
know he loves me, why can't I change enough to make it right. It must
be my fault.
The fact is...most bad relationships never get better....only good
relationships keep getting better. I have first hand experience with
this one.
relationships keep getting better. I have first hand experience with
this one.
The fact is....most unsuccessful businesses never become
successful...
they just continue to do poorly until it's way too late to make a
change.
they just continue to do poorly until it's way too late to make a
change.
The fact is....a war or interpersonal conflict that keeps getting
worse....will continue to keep getting worse....until someone walks away
or is defeated.
worse....will continue to keep getting worse....until someone walks away
or is defeated.
I've been pretty good, at following my heart, but I have had much less
luck having others follow along. But here's three things to think
about.
luck having others follow along. But here's three things to think
about.
In reality, not on TV, the most obvious suspect, is almost always the
murderer. Police will tell you that in 90% of murder cases,
the obvious suspect, like a husband or wife, is usually the one who
did it. On Matlock, the guy with the smoking gun is usually innocent.
In life, the guy with the smoking gun usually DID IT. Police often
report KNOWING who the guilty party is in their heart, usually because
it is obvious...but then have to prove it...which our courts make very
difficult. The BRAIN will find reasonable doubt, the HEART knows
better.
murderer. Police will tell you that in 90% of murder cases,
the obvious suspect, like a husband or wife, is usually the one who
did it. On Matlock, the guy with the smoking gun is usually innocent.
In life, the guy with the smoking gun usually DID IT. Police often
report KNOWING who the guilty party is in their heart, usually because
it is obvious...but then have to prove it...which our courts make very
difficult. The BRAIN will find reasonable doubt, the HEART knows
better.
In reality, a person who is involved in ONE bad relationship, has had
bad luck. One who finds them over and over again, or stays with them
way too long, is not following heart, and is using their brain to
create them and enable them.
This is what I call the "train wreck" effect, men and women who WAIT
for the TRAIN WRECK rather than stop the train or jump free, and they
experience TRAIN WRECK after TRAIN WRECK....their lives are a constant
drama
and/or tragedy. Somehow, jumping feels like quitting, the TRAIN WRECK
feels like what they deserve. The BRAIN makes them stay, the hearts
says they should jump....but they never do.
bad luck. One who finds them over and over again, or stays with them
way too long, is not following heart, and is using their brain to
create them and enable them.
This is what I call the "train wreck" effect, men and women who WAIT
for the TRAIN WRECK rather than stop the train or jump free, and they
experience TRAIN WRECK after TRAIN WRECK....their lives are a constant
drama
and/or tragedy. Somehow, jumping feels like quitting, the TRAIN WRECK
feels like what they deserve. The BRAIN makes them stay, the hearts
says they should jump....but they never do.
And finally, an abuser is always an abuser. They may be able to curb
or limit their behavior for awhile. But there is no evidence that any
abusive or neglectful person has ever been "cured". The behavior they
exhibited in the past will return over and over again. A child abuser
is always going to be a child abuser. The rapist will always be a
rapist. The "wife-beater" is always going to be a "wife-beater"
The same goes with mental or emotional abuse. Habitual abusive
personalities do not change, or change very very slowly. The BRAIN
says, I am special, She won't cheat on me, He won't abuse my child,
I will love her more and she will change, He hit me that last time
because I didn't love him enough, He won't hit me again...because I'm
special....He loves me more. If I love her more or better, if I stay
long enough, she will come close again and it will be "fine again." He
may LOVE you more..or you may LOVE her more..but the heart knows it
won't change. It didn't change the last time, it won't change this
time. It may not be coming your way now, but I will, and you know it.
The heart knows it....the brain doesn't want to believe it.
or limit their behavior for awhile. But there is no evidence that any
abusive or neglectful person has ever been "cured". The behavior they
exhibited in the past will return over and over again. A child abuser
is always going to be a child abuser. The rapist will always be a
rapist. The "wife-beater" is always going to be a "wife-beater"
The same goes with mental or emotional abuse. Habitual abusive
personalities do not change, or change very very slowly. The BRAIN
says, I am special, She won't cheat on me, He won't abuse my child,
I will love her more and she will change, He hit me that last time
because I didn't love him enough, He won't hit me again...because I'm
special....He loves me more. If I love her more or better, if I stay
long enough, she will come close again and it will be "fine again." He
may LOVE you more..or you may LOVE her more..but the heart knows it
won't change. It didn't change the last time, it won't change this
time. It may not be coming your way now, but I will, and you know it.
The heart knows it....the brain doesn't want to believe it.
These are just three examples of how the BRAIN tricks the heart into
making poor decisions. There are many many more. But frankly, in our
society, we just DO NOT TRUST intuition. We value intellect way too
much, to allow the "gut feeling" to be a deciding factor. And
unfortunately, most people, in retrospect, report that their "gut
feeling" was the right one, and they regret ignoring it.
making poor decisions. There are many many more. But frankly, in our
society, we just DO NOT TRUST intuition. We value intellect way too
much, to allow the "gut feeling" to be a deciding factor. And
unfortunately, most people, in retrospect, report that their "gut
feeling" was the right one, and they regret ignoring it.
So here's my Jedi Yoda quote for the day..."Use the force, Luke"
It was only when he put on the blindfold and used what was in his heart,
that he could master his light saber. As long as he used his heart and
his brain, he could never be free and become a true Jedi.
that he could master his light saber. As long as he used his heart and
his brain, he could never be free and become a true Jedi.
I encourage you to "Use the Force" (thank you to Lucasfilms Ltd. for not
suing me, in advance - Be sure to buy Episodes 1-6 on DVD! - gratuitous
plug to ward off lawsuit)
suing me, in advance - Be sure to buy Episodes 1-6 on DVD! - gratuitous
plug to ward off lawsuit)
You don't have to keep running into roadblocks. If you master your
inner intuition, you can walk across the stepping stones with ease,
without falling, and....surprise...without looking down at them.
inner intuition, you can walk across the stepping stones with ease,
without falling, and....surprise...without looking down at them.
One road will lead to another, and to another, until you arrive home.
Trust that inner voice today!
Gliding though life, at ease, in touch ourselves and the world around
us.
us.
All thing are possible!
Love In Thought! Love In Word! Love In Action!
Love To You Today!
"May we endeavor today to increase our understanding and appreciation of
what others have given and contributed to us. And develop constant,
mindful consideration of how our thoughts and actions will BENEFICIALLY
CONTRIBUTE to others"
what others have given and contributed to us. And develop constant,
mindful consideration of how our thoughts and actions will BENEFICIALLY
CONTRIBUTE to others"
The best to you today in discovering the answers to life's difficult
questions!
questions!
A Final Thought:
Love is always the right thing to do. Even if it isn't the easiest
thing to do.
thing to do.
May we have compassion for the struggles of others, wisdom to
acknowledge our own, and courage to address them both every day.
acknowledge our own, and courage to address them both every day.
Respectfully,
Tim
Tim
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From LOVE WORKS DAILY 05/01/03
(c)2007 T.Thomas Henry
(c)2007 T.Thomas Henry
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