LOVE WORKS DAILY 05/08/07 - SOUL MATES
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LOVE WORKS DAILY 05/08/07 - SOUL MATES
May is here, and love is in the air...well, actually
Love is always in the air...if you just take the time
to stop and breathe some in! Love to you!
INSPIRATIONAL MOMENT:
(Great Thoughts By History's Inspired Thinking Men and Women)
(Great Thoughts By History's Inspired Thinking Men and Women)
"Friends are steadfast companions on the spiritual pilgrimage. They are
a grace that makes the journey worthwhile. Just to know that they are in
the world and that we are not alone gives us courage to go on."
a grace that makes the journey worthwhile. Just to know that they are in
the world and that we are not alone gives us courage to go on."
Jan Clanton Collins
TIM's BLOG
(Random Thoughts and Tim's Daily World):
(Random Thoughts and Tim's Daily World):
I love to look back at the Love Works I have written in the
past. Because this a "life Journal" for me, the essays capture
the real "Tim" at a particular moment, and save them to be
examined again in the future. I am thrilled that some of them
have been helpful to others over the years, but ultimately
Love Works isn't about saving or changing the world...it's simply
about "mindful living". I put down in words my thoughts on different
topics and how they relate to the concept of Love.
past. Because this a "life Journal" for me, the essays capture
the real "Tim" at a particular moment, and save them to be
examined again in the future. I am thrilled that some of them
have been helpful to others over the years, but ultimately
Love Works isn't about saving or changing the world...it's simply
about "mindful living". I put down in words my thoughts on different
topics and how they relate to the concept of Love.
In reprinting this from 2003, I was really struggling with
the idea of "friends"...a real challenge to me my whole life.
I have some different views on that today...but I think my
observations at the time still hold true, for the most part,
and are worth another look.
the idea of "friends"...a real challenge to me my whole life.
I have some different views on that today...but I think my
observations at the time still hold true, for the most part,
and are worth another look.
Particularly the friends and lovers idea....how it need be
all or nothing and how so many get divorced not for solid, real
issues but because the one they are with is not EVERYTHING...and
that EVERYTHING person...that SOUL MATE....must be out there...
all or nothing and how so many get divorced not for solid, real
issues but because the one they are with is not EVERYTHING...and
that EVERYTHING person...that SOUL MATE....must be out there...
Have a wonderful day!!!!!
FOOD FOR THOUGHT:
(Brand New and Classic Love Works Essays 2001-2007)
(Brand New and Classic Love Works Essays 2001-2007)
Today I am going to explore the idea of Soul Mates.
I have always had a hard time with the world "friend" because, in all
honesty I have a hard time recognizing them, nurturing them and keeping
them.
honesty I have a hard time recognizing them, nurturing them and keeping
them.
Partially, I'm sure, because "Let's just be friends" is the
socially
accepted parting words that one lover or potential lover gives to
another to distance themselves. And partly because, when I use the word
"Friend", I personally have identified that with someone I like but am
not spiritually connected with. I don't mind them around, but they
don't set off sparks in my soul either. They are friends.
Nothing more. Nothing Less.
accepted parting words that one lover or potential lover gives to
another to distance themselves. And partly because, when I use the word
"Friend", I personally have identified that with someone I like but am
not spiritually connected with. I don't mind them around, but they
don't set off sparks in my soul either. They are friends.
Nothing more. Nothing Less.
So I don't have alot vested in making what I defined above as
"friends".
Not everyone sees friendship as such a light or superficial thing.
To some, the word "Friend" is a much bigger deal...much more intimate
and connected. Those less than friends are "acquaintances" or "buddies".
To some, the word "Friend" is a much bigger deal...much more intimate
and connected. Those less than friends are "acquaintances" or "buddies".
It is just a matter of terms, so I won't debate the intent of the
word.
I do know that "Friend" should not be just a "you're not good enough"
brush off,
but to many, it's just that. I don't love you....you're just a friend.
Ouch!
brush off,
but to many, it's just that. I don't love you....you're just a friend.
Ouch!
I'm going to discuss friends again in the future, but today I'm going
to address those individuals that transcend what many often accept as
friends. They are more than people that we occasionally have lunch
with, or discuss the "Blazers" with, or even do hobbies or family
activities with.
to address those individuals that transcend what many often accept as
friends. They are more than people that we occasionally have lunch
with, or discuss the "Blazers" with, or even do hobbies or family
activities with.
These people have a much deeper connection to us. They are "like
us".
They compliment our spirits and our energy.
They compliment our spirits and our energy.
If you look at yourself as a jigsaw puzzle, you are never at any one
time complete. As many pieces as you may have, you are always missing
a few. In those empty spaces, your soul mates fill in the gaps.
They fill in your spaces, you fill in theirs.
time complete. As many pieces as you may have, you are always missing
a few. In those empty spaces, your soul mates fill in the gaps.
They fill in your spaces, you fill in theirs.
(NOTE: I am not talking about co-dependence here - I am talking about
a
symbiotic and mutual sharing - not dependence.)
symbiotic and mutual sharing - not dependence.)
There are those that believe that there is only one soul mate for each
person. They believe for every ying, there is an equal and opposite
yang. One, perfect person, that completes them in every way.
person. They believe for every ying, there is an equal and opposite
yang. One, perfect person, that completes them in every way.
And they wait and wait and wait for them to arrive.
For some, they are very nearly right, very lucky, and early in their
lives they meet the one who almost completes them.
lives they meet the one who almost completes them.
They do find one "soul mate".
But For most of us, if we waited for one person to meet all our needs
(spiritual, emotional, physical etc.)
we would wait forever. And always be disappointed.
(spiritual, emotional, physical etc.)
we would wait forever. And always be disappointed.
The divorce rate in the US attests to this. Because the spouse is not
EVERYTHING, people get divorced and have NOTHING.
EVERYTHING, people get divorced and have NOTHING.
I believe that we must open ourselves to connect to many
different
people to achieve this "spiritual balance". We feel complete as
a part of a group or a family.
people to achieve this "spiritual balance". We feel complete as
a part of a group or a family.
We ARE, in truth, COMPLETE as an individual.
But we all have a need to commune with the spirits of others to become
more in touch with our connection to all things. Each communion
makes the universal connection more clear.
more in touch with our connection to all things. Each communion
makes the universal connection more clear.
But some connections are PROFOUND and deserve more attention and
energy.
energy.
I have, several times now, recognized a Soul Mate. Someone I
am
"supposed" to be with....someplace I "belong". The recognition and
appreciation is immediate, and for me quite permanent.
"supposed" to be with....someplace I "belong". The recognition and
appreciation is immediate, and for me quite permanent.
I won't know much about the person, be they male or female, but
we connect on a very intimate "spiritual" level. I can usually
recognize it instantly....those I recognize will usually have a strong
uneasy familiarity with me....but it produces as much confusion for them
as it does joy.
we connect on a very intimate "spiritual" level. I can usually
recognize it instantly....those I recognize will usually have a strong
uneasy familiarity with me....but it produces as much confusion for them
as it does joy.
There has only been three times, am I aware of, that someone recognized
me as a
spiritual traveler with them, before I recognized them.
me as a
spiritual traveler with them, before I recognized them.
Luckily for me, one of them was my wife Tonya.
When she met me, she KNEW!!! She had dated and looked for what she
wanted and when she met me, although I may not have fit all the
criteria she had used before, she recognized me as a soul mate.
wanted and when she met me, although I may not have fit all the
criteria she had used before, she recognized me as a soul mate.
I was a bit puzzled to be honest....how did she know this...what did she
know that I didn't....but when I let my guard down I saw it, as well.
She was it...she was like me....we fit together....we belonged!!!
know that I didn't....but when I let my guard down I saw it, as well.
She was it...she was like me....we fit together....we belonged!!!
Over ten years later we still know. The connection was permanent and
forever. I will seek her out into eternity, long after my body has
failed to contain my spirit.
forever. I will seek her out into eternity, long after my body has
failed to contain my spirit.
She is a SOUL MATE....but like I said...not THE ONE TRUE SOULMATE.
She's an "almost everything" connection that is lasting and eternal.
I am very fortunate.
She's an "almost everything" connection that is lasting and eternal.
I am very fortunate.
When I got married the first time, I KNEW it was wrong....it didn't
fit...we weren't SOUL MATES, but she was there...and I was there....she
said she loved me....and I needed someone to say that.
I talked myself into it, but we didn't fill in any of the spiritual
puzzle pieces I spoke of earlier. We were not spiritual travelers.
We simply met superficial "day to day" needs and enabled each others
continued insecurities and problems.
fit...we weren't SOUL MATES, but she was there...and I was there....she
said she loved me....and I needed someone to say that.
I talked myself into it, but we didn't fill in any of the spiritual
puzzle pieces I spoke of earlier. We were not spiritual travelers.
We simply met superficial "day to day" needs and enabled each others
continued insecurities and problems.
I recognize SOUL MATES or spiritual travelers more quickly and easily
now....and I also recognize when the connection is not happening.
now....and I also recognize when the connection is not happening.
I admit, I am frustrated when I spend too much time with
those I do not connect with and not enough with those I do.
those I do not connect with and not enough with those I do.
I gain so much from, and enjoy so greatly, sharing in the energy
of
"spiritual union" that anything less tends to be a bit of a let down.
"spiritual union" that anything less tends to be a bit of a let down.
I am both blessed and cursed by this....
I get a big high from "being in sync" with someone else....or several
someone else's....
someone else's....
And when I'm out of sync....I can feel very disconnected and alone (even
in a room full of people).
in a room full of people).
I'm learning to remain in "communion" with my spiritual "soul
mates"
even when I cannot be physically with them.
even when I cannot be physically with them.
Since the connection is truly spiritual, the connection should be able
to be maintained regardless......
to be maintained regardless......
I believe that all people and things come from one source, so from that
one source we are all connected.
one source we are all connected.
Join me in recognizing and being "connected" with your "Soul Mates"
.....and everything else on this wonderful day.
All is joy!!!
Love to you today!!!
Love In Thought! Love In Word! Love In Action!
Love To You Today!
"May we endeavor today to increase our understanding and appreciation of
what others have given and contributed to us. And develop constant,
mindful consideration of how our thoughts and actions will BENEFICIALLY
CONTRIBUTE to others"
what others have given and contributed to us. And develop constant,
mindful consideration of how our thoughts and actions will BENEFICIALLY
CONTRIBUTE to others"
The best to you today in discovering the answers to life's difficult
questions!
questions!
A Final Thought:
Love is always the right thing to do. Even if it isn't the easiest
thing to do.
thing to do.
May we have compassion for the struggles of others, wisdom to
acknowledge our own, and courage to address them both every day.
acknowledge our own, and courage to address them both every day.
Respectfully,
Tim
Tim
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From LOVE WORKS DAILY 04/23/03
(c)2007 T.Thomas Henry
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