LOVE WORKS DAILY 05/22/07 - INTEGRITY PART 2
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LOVE WORKS DAILY 05/22/07 - INTEGRITY PART
2
May is here, and love is in the air...well, actually
Love is always in the air...if you just take the time
to stop and breathe some in! Love to you!
INSPIRATIONAL MOMENT:
(Great Thoughts By History's Inspired Thinking Men and Women)
(Great Thoughts By History's Inspired Thinking Men and Women)
I can honestly say that I was never affected by the question of the
success of an undertaking. If I felt it was the right thing to do, I was
for it regardless of the possible outcome.
success of an undertaking. If I felt it was the right thing to do, I was
for it regardless of the possible outcome.
Golda Meir (1898 - 1978)
TIM's BLOG
(Random Thoughts and Tim's Daily World):
(Random Thoughts and Tim's Daily World):
Hi all and Happy Tuesday. Having one of those...too busy
being
busy weeks...so my writing is going to be brief, I'm afraid.
busy weeks...so my writing is going to be brief, I'm afraid.
Today's Love Works is the second part in the series on
Integrity....
It's really worth a look...Honesty is one thing..but integrity
is Honesty plus one.
It's really worth a look...Honesty is one thing..but integrity
is Honesty plus one.
It used to be a handshake meant something...because, all in all,
most people had integrity.
most people had integrity.
And of course, no coincidence that I just had a heated
discussion about this very topic....
discussion about this very topic....
Having integrity doesn't mean always being NICE...is also
means being truthful when it's not so nice to hear.
means being truthful when it's not so nice to hear.
Love to all!
FOOD FOR THOUGHT:
(Brand New and Classic Love Works Essays 2001-2007)
(Brand New and Classic Love Works Essays 2001-2007)
Today is day #2 in a series of letters on various definitions of
the word.
the word.
2. completeness: the state of being complete or undivided
"I ams who I ams!!", declared Popeye.
Indeed!
I like when I know where I stand with a person. I respect when they
have the INTEGRITY to represent themselves, as they are, without any
gloss or false appearances. I also feel that it can make a person feel
more confident and secure.
have the INTEGRITY to represent themselves, as they are, without any
gloss or false appearances. I also feel that it can make a person feel
more confident and secure.
This definition (and I'm not trying to be exact in my explanations,
rather just use them as a starting point) has very little to do with
being ETHICAL And MORAL, and everything about being WHOLE and REAL.
rather just use them as a starting point) has very little to do with
being ETHICAL And MORAL, and everything about being WHOLE and REAL.
For example, being lazy is not an ETHICAL or MORAL decision
in every case. Sometimes being lazy would indicate you lack ethics,
other times it would make no difference.
in every case. Sometimes being lazy would indicate you lack ethics,
other times it would make no difference.
With this definition of INTEGRITY, it has everything to do your state of
being "yourself" and "not fooling yourself or others".
being "yourself" and "not fooling yourself or others".
So....If you are actually lazy, but claim to be hardworking, the
difference between your claim and reality indicate a lack of INTEGRITY
in your personality.
difference between your claim and reality indicate a lack of INTEGRITY
in your personality.
I never really thought of this type of INTEGRITY before, I thought
INTEGRITY always meant good things. Anything good and right about
yourself meant that you had integrity. After my divorce in 1991, I began
to explore the idea of being WHOLE and truly myself.
INTEGRITY always meant good things. Anything good and right about
yourself meant that you had integrity. After my divorce in 1991, I began
to explore the idea of being WHOLE and truly myself.
I frightened alot of people, those first few years!!!!
I would go on a date and say..."Hi! I'm Tim. I just thought you should
know a few things about myself.....I'm divorced, I have a low paying
job, I have a car that barely runs and a two room apartment, I'm 40
pounds overweight, and I've recently recovered from a nervous
breakdown...Glad to meet you!!" They would respond that they needed to
use the restroom and must have gotten lost on the way or something
because I would never see them again.
know a few things about myself.....I'm divorced, I have a low paying
job, I have a car that barely runs and a two room apartment, I'm 40
pounds overweight, and I've recently recovered from a nervous
breakdown...Glad to meet you!!" They would respond that they needed to
use the restroom and must have gotten lost on the way or something
because I would never see them again.
Maybe that was too much for a first date.
But it was important to me to know the REAL person, and for them to
KNOW the REAL me. Honestly, why waste a whole bunch of time and energy
on dinners and movies and weddings and divorces, along the way.
KNOW the REAL me. Honestly, why waste a whole bunch of time and energy
on dinners and movies and weddings and divorces, along the way.
If they didn't like (or didn't want) the real me, I would know
right up front. Hopefully, my upfront nature would inspire the same in
them.
right up front. Hopefully, my upfront nature would inspire the same in
them.
It happened exactly that way once, I met her, I told her, She told me,
She knew, and it's still happily ever after.
She knew, and it's still happily ever after.
Now it's true, you don't know everything about yourself at any
time.
Learning about yourself, to be able to share this kind of information,
can be a long process.
Learning about yourself, to be able to share this kind of information,
can be a long process.
But I knew, and I do know, enough about myself, to really share
information about myself (the good, the bad & the ugly) as I know myself
at this point in time.
information about myself (the good, the bad & the ugly) as I know myself
at this point in time.
I have taken the time to RESEARCH myself so to limit the inconsistencies
between what I REALLY am and falsehoods (self-deceptions)that I try to
SELL to other people.
between what I REALLY am and falsehoods (self-deceptions)that I try to
SELL to other people.
Some people are really bad at it. You know, we call them two-faced or
"fakes" or "wannabees". These people are easy to spot, and we usually
avoid them. These folks INTENTIONALLY mislead us into believing things
about themselves that are not true.
"fakes" or "wannabees". These people are easy to spot, and we usually
avoid them. These folks INTENTIONALLY mislead us into believing things
about themselves that are not true.
Others are just not very self aware, they BELIEVE the untruths
that they have told others and themselves for years and they live as
though they are true. (Both positive and negative false self images).
that they have told others and themselves for years and they live as
though they are true. (Both positive and negative false self images).
SO....CURRENT REALITY FOR ME......
Being ME....Representing ME as clearly as possible....and living a life
consistent with that is very important to me.
consistent with that is very important to me.
In some circles, you may say I believe in being "Out" with things.
I have learned, now however, to not answer a question that hasn't been
asked.
(As much as you may want to tell a friend about your favorite sexual
position...they may not be prepared or appreciate the telling).
asked.
(As much as you may want to tell a friend about your favorite sexual
position...they may not be prepared or appreciate the telling).
If you want to know something about me...ask...I will not hesitate to
answer as best as I can at the moment.
answer as best as I can at the moment.
And I try not to ever pretend, to be something I am not.
I have been asked to do so. I have quit jobs, and left
relationships
over it.
over it.
For example....I am personally very passionate about living, for
example... this means I will put in 110% to whatever I believe in....
It also means that I will be passionately opposed about what I do not
believe in...you will hear my opinion and I will take a strong stand
behind it including action if appropriate.
example... this means I will put in 110% to whatever I believe in....
It also means that I will be passionately opposed about what I do not
believe in...you will hear my opinion and I will take a strong stand
behind it including action if appropriate.
In the workplace, this means at an interview, I reveal these qualities
BEFORE they hire me...and LIVE them after I go to work. If they hire
me, KNOWING about this quality, they should expect it to appear
in the workplace. If I were to end up being lazy and apathetic, I would
expect to be fired. If I indeed am hardworking, strong-willed, and
sometimes confrontational, I should expect to be rewarded for my
INTEGRITY.
BEFORE they hire me...and LIVE them after I go to work. If they hire
me, KNOWING about this quality, they should expect it to appear
in the workplace. If I were to end up being lazy and apathetic, I would
expect to be fired. If I indeed am hardworking, strong-willed, and
sometimes confrontational, I should expect to be rewarded for my
INTEGRITY.
In personal relationships, this means I love hard, play hard, work
hard, dream hard, talk hard, cry hard, and fight hard.
I do things HARD, in general. (add Joke here - those who know me at
all, know that I would put a joke here) To remain consistent and live with
INTEGRITY, people need to KNOW upfront that this is how I am. You get
the good with the bad. I'm not really a part-time or half-way person.
And I'm not sure I want to be.
hard, dream hard, talk hard, cry hard, and fight hard.
I do things HARD, in general. (add Joke here - those who know me at
all, know that I would put a joke here) To remain consistent and live with
INTEGRITY, people need to KNOW upfront that this is how I am. You get
the good with the bad. I'm not really a part-time or half-way person.
And I'm not sure I want to be.
So it's difficult (and uncomfortable) to be something, in between.
I value living with personal INTEGRITY that much.
I like who I am. I tell it like it is. I don't back away from a
challenge. I've give my all and I can usually look myself in the mirror
in the morning (after my shower) and respect what I see. (Yes, add
another joke here...I do know that I have sex on the brain...I can
respect and live that, as well ... LOL).
challenge. I've give my all and I can usually look myself in the mirror
in the morning (after my shower) and respect what I see. (Yes, add
another joke here...I do know that I have sex on the brain...I can
respect and live that, as well ... LOL).
You are who you are. I am who I am.
Be it.
Live it.
Love it.
You are the only YOU there is!!!
Love In Thought! Love In Word! Love In Action!
Love To You Today!
"May we endeavor today to increase our understanding and appreciation of
what others have given and contributed to us. And develop constant,
mindful consideration of how our thoughts and actions will BENEFICIALLY
CONTRIBUTE to others"
what others have given and contributed to us. And develop constant,
mindful consideration of how our thoughts and actions will BENEFICIALLY
CONTRIBUTE to others"
The best to you today in discovering the answers to life's difficult
questions!
questions!
A Final Thought:
Love is always the right thing to do. Even if it isn't the easiest
thing to do.
thing to do.
May we have compassion for the struggles of others, wisdom to
acknowledge our own, and courage to address them both every day.
acknowledge our own, and courage to address them both every day.
Respectfully,
Tim
Tim
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From LOVE WORKS DAILY 10/24/05
(c)2007 T.Thomas Henry
(c)2007 T.Thomas Henry
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