I definitely would pass on a stroller unless it's been within the year, and you couldn't get me to consider a used car seat to save my life. You never know what's happened and those suckers have expiration dates and recalls that no one ever checks! They say even if it's been in a finder bender it needs to be tossed. I would take a pack and play if it was within the last few years or a family nursery set that had been passed down. Our family had a cradle that every baby had been in! Breast pump, not unless it had been within the year... Motors go bad and are expensive to replace. Typically you have to replace all the valves/tubing and such anyway (check with your ins most cover brand new medela!) I would say don't be too disappointed if what you register for isn't exactly what you get. I registered for a nice swing/bouncer (I got a used one, we ended up loving it but I was still hurt) I registered for a gender neutral black and silver stroller/car seat combo and got a grey/red/white one (not gender neutral in the slightest plus I let my sis and law borrow it and she returned it useless $300 down the drain!) I wanted this super nice nursery (hind sight it was probably a good idea that we could only afford the cheap one because between my tot and his cousin they ruined it, yet I have to use it for baby #2!) we ended up buying the bottles we registered for and all the toys and even the diapers! I did get my boppy and play mat though.
My budget is a little tight and I still wouldn't accept hand me downs in strollers, car seats, bassinets, cribs, breast pumps, bottles or any big items. Gently used clothes I'm all for and I will probably buy some consignment. He's probably just a little overwhelmed thinking about the over all price. I would suggest buying things slowly instead of one large hale. My hubby brings a box of diapers home every pay check, which is every week. We love watching our stock pile grow. Just tape receipts to the individual and u can exchange once baby is hear if u need a different size. I just personally don't think it's safe to receive the above things I mentioned used. Many have expiration dates, and some things like a car seat in my opinion should just be purchased new so u aren't putting your precious newborn in something that may have a lot of germs. Also remind hubby the big things u receive used will absolutely be expired by next baby so u will be starting from scratch again, where as if u buy new now and take good care of things u can reuse later. Just try and buy some things now and that way it's not so overwhelming at the end. And if u live in the US remember we have Black Friday after thanksgiving and that's a great time to buy big ticket items like a crib and stroller and car seat comb. Also you should call your insurance or speak to your OB many insurances cover the cost of a breast pump. Good luck :)
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Your family is going to spoil you rotten with new things :) Take your new stuff and hand it down to your next kids! Used breast pump....ahh, no! I love gently used clothes but we received/bought new big items and then used it with the next child.
Insurance will cover all or most of the cost of a breast pump, so problem solved there :) I'd definitely take hand me down clothes, and possibly other items depending on the age/condition...car seat would be a no, but stroller or swing or pack & play type stuff would be a maybe. You can check online for any recalls. That said, if they're not the same items you'd want to buy on your own or if they're not in great shape, then I also have no issue buying new as long as you have the budget for it!
I'd compromise! See if you can find some great condition things to take off people's hands;). If someone has a swing, jumper, exersaucer in great condition ...I'd take it in a heartbeat! Their will definitely be more to buy and enough to register for. See who has an small umbrella stroller so you can put more money in a nicer one!
Things like a bumbo honestly just need to be wiped down. Car seats should be bought new and there are very few breast pumps on the market which should have multiple users. Nix both of those off the list.
Clothes in good shape are great! Things that don't clean up well that have been puked, peed and pooped on I wouldn't want. I would want a fresh stroller and car seat just for the Ick factor. However, with car seats and cribs, there are lots of safety concerns. Id definitely say no to a used car seat, and do lots of research on a crib.
\n\tI see his side. I'm never too proud to accept hand-me-downs! Haha. We accept anything graciously, and when it no longer fits our needs we pass it on to someone else. The only thing we've ever bought new was a crib, and special church outfits. Even then, they were discounted. Our breastpump was new, and paid for by insurance. I don't think it makes someone cheap to accept used things...I think it's more being practical. However, if it fits within your budget to buy exactly what you want, go for it! Maybe compromise by asking him to hold off on accepting anything until after your shower, then you can make your remaining needs known to those wanting to gift you hand-me-downs.
Compromise. Accept hand me downs, but get a new car seat. They really tell you not to share breast pumps because of mold and other issues. Check with your insurance. Not all cover a new one, but many do.
As far as other stuff, wait and see. There's still lots of time and you can slowly accumulate things. Tell him you'd like to register for everything new and if someone gives you a hand me down that will work, you'll cross if off your list. It's more of a wish list/keep track kind of thing anyway.
My sisters dh didn't want a baby shower at all bc they are rich so he figured they'd just buy everything. I told her that that wasn't really the point of a shower anyway and that making a registry has benefits beyond getting stuff as gifts. You can get discounts and it is a good way to check off the stuff you think you need.
Car seat and breast pump need to be new. We got our crib new too. Otherwise I'm in agreement with your husband I prefer used. I had a great used stroller. I'm in a city where stroller theft is common so I loved having a functional one that looked beat up - no one wanted to steal it!
Another benefit of used clothing is... A lot of people spend extra for new "organic" clothing because of the industrial chemicals used in the manufacturing process, and clothing dyes etc. Used clothes have been washed many times so I actually prefer them. Plus it's more eco friendly and now that my kid is talking (she's three) she loves to talk about "who gave her" a certain item (a cousin or friend... ) it's so cute. When I buy new clothes she asks "who gave it" to me. Hahaha.
He thinks that we know soooo many people that will give us their hand me downs, and we don't need to go out and buy everything. He has a brother 5 states away that has two young kids but his other siblings kids that live near us are like 10 years old. I think he's over exaggerating that we know sooo many people who will give us their used stuff. Honestly, I don't want to take used stuff if I don't need it. It's our first child, my parents first grandkid and I know I will have a decent baby shower. Gently used clothes I'm all for it cause I know they grow so fast, but used strollers and car seats I'm not all for it. I see the purpose of your first baby shower is to hopefully be given those big items new and then re-use them for your future kids. Hence why most people don't have baby showers with their 2nd kid. He even thinks I should use his sisters breast pump which was also used by his sister in law. That grosses me out, plus it's got to be like 10 years old and I'm sure there is better technology these days. Am I just being greedy/snooty or logical? We aren't breaking the bank buying baby items, so I don't understand what the big deal is, but it caused our first huge argument ever since I became pregnant.
Natalie and Carl are newlyweds, but the honeymoon period is over already.
Carl has just announced he has bought their first home at auction without telling Natalie where it is, never mind showing her a picture of it.
Second-hand furniture has much to recommend it, especially when doing up a country cottage, second-hand clothes can be ever-so chic, but second-hand husbands are proving to be a very bad idea indeed... Can Natalie ever escape the label of Wife Number Two or is she destined to share her husband forever?
The good news is that there are plenty of ways to show others how much you love them but spend less doing it. In my house, we follow the 4 gift rule for our two kids; we buy them something they want, something they need, something to wear, and something to read. We also buy second-hand from local stores when we can. This works well because we spend less, they still get plenty of toys from other family members, and we feel less overwhelmed by the holiday toy explosion and our credit card bill. Another variation of this rule is getting something they want, something they need, somewhere to go, and something to read. Be careful about where you go, though, because a trip to Disney is way more expensive than a pair of shoes!
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