Me and my boy was talking about this...
Your spouse or partner became handicapped, paralyzed or lost a major limb. What would your reaction be. Now lets make this deep, lets say this tragic situation changes the nature of your life, meaning saying one cant have kids, can't perform (sexually) and can't take care of themselves. What would you do? (Cherry on top) say you been married for 3 years and your partner finds out they have aids, but you are good... do you leave or would death do you part?
Me and my boy was talking about this...
Your spouse or partner became handicapped, paralyzed or lost a major limb. What would your reaction be. Now lets make this deep, lets say this tragic situation changes the nature of your life, meaning saying one cant have kids, can't perform (sexually) and can't take care of themselves. What would you do? (Cherry on top) say you been married for 3 years and your partner finds out they have aids, but you are good... do you leave or would death do you part?
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Til death do you part. Love = sacrifice. Unfortunately, this is the risk you take when you marry. Anything could happen to either spouse. Hence the vow – “for better or for worse, in sickness and in health…” It’s sad but I know a couple of people whose marriages ended when they became sick and their spouse did not love them enough to stay and help nurse them back to health.
Now for the AIDS question, that depends. How did he get it? Was he cheating?
Angella
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LOL…Faunya you are too funny. J
I didn’t even consider the question in a dating relationship. I’d have to agree with Faunya. If just dating, I probably would not stay L. If engaged and in love and planning to marry…I’d like to think I would stay, since I already had made the decision that I loved you enough to spend my life with you. But yeah – that might be very difficult, depending on the restrains of the illness.
Angella
This kind of question is frightening. If my partner got sick or went through something that greatly changed the nature of our relationship, I would stay with them. The depth of the relationship does matter tho, a gf or bf of a few months wouldn't be given the same benefit of a doubt as someone I've had more time to develop a relationship with. When it comes to the whole HIV/AIDS thing, looking at the evidence gives me way more questions than it answers. If it were cancer or something it's easier to decide to stay because we feel that kind of sickness is harder to pinpoint the blame, however with something like an STI the whole issue of faithfulness influences our behavior. Its wack when you look at how people judge the sick, like some deserve the disease and suffering they get because of their actions and others we have ribbon walks for.
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So let's say the Aids was dormant and was contracted before you, and your partner was faithful, he Just never been tested....
Hey everyone.. I came across this video about a couple who are living
through this situation.. thought of sharing it..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L5spWq9rJyQ
On Dec 17 2010, 9:27 pm, Faunya Estrada <faunya.a.alb...@gmail.com>
wrote:
> Lol! I am laughing because you *(Donnie)* and I have had this conversation
> several times before over the course of us dating....and every time we
> discussed it, you were very upset with my response.
>
> Anywho.....My reaction would vary depending on what level of relationship I
> have with the person and our current standing.
>
> This topic first came up years ago when Donnie & I were watching one of
> those Extreme Home Makeover show where the guy was a football player in HS
> or college and his girlfriend of 3-6 months stayed with him after he was in
> a terrible accident and became paralyzed from the waist down. Personally,
> if I had a boyfriend of six months and this happened, I wouldn't stay. If
> he was a great guy, we'd have to just be friends. (*Harsh, I know....but
> also honest*).
> If I were with my boyfriend for 4-5 years and this happened and we were in
> love, I likely wouldn't stay. Why? Well, if we were together for so many
> years and were in love, then likely I wanted to marry you.....& likely
> you've been stalling.....so likely, I'm not committing myself to a cripple
> who didn't even love me enough to commit a lifetime.
>
> If I were with my boyfriend for 4-5 years and we were engaged and planning
> the wedding *cringe*, I'd likely stay.......but it would be a difficult
> decision that we'd have to talk about in-depth. This is a little personal,
> but I waited a long time to have 'relations' and to know that my waiting was
> in vain would REALLY hurt me. Kids....we can adopt, if need be. But
> everything else.....Difficult!.....& that includes having to dress or take
> that person to the bathroom & all that other stuff. I don't know.
>
> If I were married, that's a different story. I take the institution of
> marriage very seriously and I'd have to stick it out and do whatever is
> required. It is my responsibility, as far as I'm concerned. My reaction
> would be the same as if my child got into an accident and needed to be taken
> care of.
>
> Regarding AIDS *(and being married)*: It depends on the situation and how
> and where he got it. I know you can't pinpoint times exactly, but if it
> appeared to me that he likely contracted AIDS while we were either dating or
> married....Goodbye! You're on your own! Since you weren't committed enough
> to me to refrain from risky, uncommitted behavior, I'm not committed enough
> to you to stick around, so that you have a life mate. No way, Jose! Live
> your life having to explain to every girl you meet that you have AIDS.....or
> live your life alone.
>
> On Fri, Dec 17, 2010 at 11:00 AM, Donnie estrada <estrada...@gmail.com>wrote:
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> > Me and my boy was talking about this...
> > Your spouse or partner became handicapped, paralyzed or lost a major limb.
> > What would your reaction be. Now lets make this deep, lets say this tragic
> > situation changes the nature of your life, meaning saying one cant have
> > kids, can't perform (sexually) and can't take care of themselves. What would
> > you do? (Cherry on top) say you been married for 3 years and your partner
> > finds out they have aids, but you are good... do you leave or would death do
> > you part?
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LOL I love the truth! I am cracking up!
I know someone who was in this situation that was forced to leave his wife b/c she changed. She was injured on her job and had several major back surgeries. He absolutely loved her to death and took care of her through all the pains and sufferings. But during the hard times and as things got better she became very depressed and bipolar. He tried with her for years, but her emotions and her treatment towards him put a strain on their relationship warranting him to leave a bad situation. He felt that she did not want to be well and live her life despite her limited disability.