1. Yes, these 3 features you listed above were added in VMA 6.5.*.
We believe VMA 6.5.3 (latest available on site) is stable enough for production, but this is not a GA level version.
VMA 6.5 GA is planned to be released around the end of November, and will be based on the next MLNX OFED 2.1 release which is planned to be released in the end of December.
2. You are correct.
We will check if we can provide a version of sockperf compiled with vma_extra.h.
Regarding --vmazcopyread, the zero copy functionality of VMA can be applied only to UDP sockets.
It will not work for TCP sockets.