On Thu, May 19, 2016 at 08:23:21AM -0700, Tom Adams wrote:
> Alice Callahan is doing how great work on this very neglected topic:
> This topic is so neglected that the phrase "How to Prevent Your Child's
> Sleep Problems" got no hits in a google search till I started using it
> Of course sleep association is not a new idea, but parents usually learn
> about the idea after their child already has developed problem sleep
> associations. I have never before seen anything that does such a good job
> of covering gentle methods for preventing problem sleep associations,
> particularly methods that seem (to me anyway) to be consistent with
> attachment parenting.
I wonder (as I have before) if I should write up my kids' sleep
behaviour, or if they are just *so* far from the mean that it
wouldn't be useful to anybody at all, but if you'll permit me to
whine for a minute... (IOW: there is no useful information below
In the second article (which I read almost all of), near the top
When there was an opportunity, we put him down awake in a bassinet
in the living room, and after looking around for a while and
sucking on his hand, he would often drift off to sleep peacefully.
and already I know this article is going to have zero bearing on the
experiences I had. To the best of our recollection, neither of my
twins went to sleep except on a person or in the car in the first
*year* of life. They literally could not be laid on a flat surface
at any point, for any length of time, without screaming (I have
video of this).
Later she describes letting the baby fall asleep lying on a pillow
on her lap. I did equivalent things, and they "worked", if you want
to describe "screaming as loud as possible for 45+ minutes until
passing out" as "worked". This is a fully-cared-for baby being held
physically by a parent; the only reason for the screaming was that
she was tired and it was night and she wasn't on a boob.
Seriously, WTF was wrong with my kids??
It *still* takes me thirty minutes to an hour to get K asleep (at
least, if I want her asleep at 23:00 instead of 01:30), at 4.5 years
old, but at least that hour is spent singing to her, rather than
getting screamed at, which is a *considerable* improvement.