Golfing Over It
Wan Cabiness
Are there any ladies out there that are going through something similar? I could really use some advice on how to save my marriage. I love that my husband has his hobbies but it's gotten to a point where I totally feel left out, he golfs at 3-4 times weekly, including every Saturday, not to mention he works nights but still has the energy to go play golf. I feel like we live separate lives. We went to dinner for the first time in months and it did not go very well, as there was such a disconnect between us.. I'm not trying to stop him from playing, I just, idk. He plays with his employees or his boss a lot of times. And other friends of his, they all see my husband more than I do. No told him I would like to learn to play but that didn't go over very well. I just want time for US too. Help!
Are there any ladies out there that are going through something similar? I could really use some advice on how to save my marriage. I love that my husband has his hobbies but it's gotten to a point where I totally feel left out, he golfs at 3-4 times weekly, including every Saturday, not to mention he works nights but still has the energy to go play golf. I feel like we live separate lives. We went to dinner for the first time in months and it did not go very well, as there was such a disconnect between us.. I'm not trying to stop him from playing, I just, idk. Help!
Yes, I discussed it several times, including at dinner last night but he took it the wrong way or something to where we argued. I feel if he was to put as much time in our marriage like he does golf then we would be in a better place, I just want my husband back. I mean as much money he spends to play golf that much to where I have to initiate communications, etc is out of control. I took my wedding rings off, I no longer feel like we are married, just strangers in passing
I went through something similar recently. I hope it's not too forward of me to suggest, but I think the best course of action here is to seek out a marriage counselor. These situations are delicate and it's probably not something that's fixable by strangers on the internet.
One, serve the guy with divorce papers. Wedding ring have been removed, right? Best case scenario is, once served, the husband will see the error of being too preoccupied with his golf game, and will seek forgiveness. If not, then divorce him. Take the guy for all he is worth...monetarily speaking. Get the car, his golf clubs, and the home.
Two, would be for the OP to find her own hobby, and wait for the husband to come around, and remember why he got married in the first place. Maybe take up her own golf game, and get involved with a local ladies golf league. If not golf, start taking trips, go sight seeing. Take a cruise. Take up camping, and hiking. Basically the OP should start doing her own thing(s) and get on with her own life.
It's not an "either/or" situation. He can play golf (which doesn't mean he's not thinking of you) and you can learn a bit about the game and engage him in discussions when you have dinner together or at other times. He will love you (more) for it. But to be fair, he needs to react the same for any hobbies you take up... allowing you to fulfill yourself. He needs to gain an appreciation for any endeavors you chose to follow. Things evolve through life. If everything stayed the same it would be boring.
On a serious note, look back to your dating/early marriage days. Try to re-create some of those situations. We gravitate towards the things that give us the most enjoyment. And if he's serious about saving his marriage he needs to do the same. And put the rings back on to show him you are trying.
I just want say Thank you all very much for your advice, I greatly appreciate it. He's at golf as we speak, I had tears in my eyes when I expressed my feelings to him at dinner but I just don't think he gets it, he straight up told me that he's not going to stop playing- nor do I want him to, I know golf is a relaxing sport for men, I get it. However my husband plays so much, that I was desperate enough to create an account on this website to try and get advice. I guess I could try and see if there is a local women's league or something to try and learn more. I watch golf with him on tv, etc.. Marriage counseling is also a great idea, thank you all again very much!!
The challenges of hauling fully laden carts and golfing up and down treacherous and rocky mountain passes, trying, mostly unsuccessfully, to avoid the mid day desert heat, for me at least, being a vegan in one of the most carnivorous countries on the planet, battling swarms of Mosquitos, and the general fatigue and aches and pains brought on by the sheer volume of work required to complete the expedition before our visas expire, are all long forgotten and fortunately ultimately outweighed by the highs! Although at times, this is easy to forget!
As 2019 comes to an end I have now time to reflect on a fantastic golf season. In May this year Southport hosted the European Tour and the British Masters at the excellent Hillside golf club . I had 8 Clients (friends) from Austria come to Southport for the week to watch the golf and also play some of the great links golf courses and also enjoy some sightseeing in the Southport area. Everyone had a great time and I look forward to hosting them again in Southport in the future.
Also in May I took some clients (friends) to the Isle of Man where we played some wonderful golf courses including one of my favourite courses Castletown golf links , the Isle of Man is majestic place to visit and play golf and it is only a short ferry ride or flight from Liverpool.
In July this year i was fortunate to qualify for my 3rd Senior British Open held nearby at the very difficult links golf course of Royal Lytham. I was lucky to be drawn and play the qualifying round at my home course Southport and Ainsdale and shoot a 3 under 69 to finish 2nd.
In the Open itself I manage to make my first cut in a major with rounds of 70,75,72,69 to finish in 42nd place. I was very honoured to play behind the golfing legend Tom Watson in the final round which was to be his last round in a major as he was retiring.
I look forward to 2020 and my first tournament of the year is at the end of January in Portugal and the European seniors tour qualifying school where only the top 5 will gain full exemption to the tour for the year so fingers crossed my putter behaves itself.
I will be hosting more friends and clients in Southport in 2020 and I look forward to seeing and meeting many more new faces and playing golf with them on the World class courses we have in Southport.
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