Mentoring Do's and Don'ts

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Hi,
Something I would like to share.

Being a mentor doesn’t mean having all the answers to every question.
A good mentor know which questions to ask to stimulate development in
their mentee.

Some of the questions mentors ask:

What are your hopes and dreams for the future?
How can I help you?
Where are your skills being tested?
Where is your character being tested?
How is your relationship/communication style effecting what you are
trying to accomplish?
What are some new things you could try?
What are some things that would help you to have more integrity?
What challenges have you faced and what were some of the effects of
those challenges?
How has that shaped who you are?
How can you use your past to prepare you for the future?
Even though things haven’t worked out as you’d hoped, what are you
learning from that?
As you assess your growth, where do you see yourself right now?

Some Do’s and Don’ts for Mentors
Do:

Be clear about your motives for helping your mentee. If you’re not
sure yourself, the mentee will get mixed messages from you.
Look after your mentee’s needs, but consider your own as well. Be
certain about what you want from the relationship and what you’re
willing to give.?
Be prepared for the relationship to end. The successful mentee-mentor
cycle requires that the mentee move on and the relationship either
ends ortakes a different form.
Don’t:

Don’t give up right away if your mentee initially resists your help.
They may not recognize the value of what you have to offer.
Persistence – to a point – may help.?
Don’t try to force your mentee to follow in your footsteps. If the
footsteps fit, they will follow voluntarily.
Value the mentee’s unique path and where they are along that path.?
Don’t have a pre-conceived plan for the final outcome of your
relationship.
Working or living in an environment where they experience these
things, a person’s motivation and commitment increases. They grow,
mature as individuals and become more effective.

Regards,
Lee Kuan