Roger,
Well that is a wild story. When NI stuff goes wrong, it really does go wrong in strange ways. Glad you have at least gotten somewhere.
You have probably tried these things, but figured I'd add them since my lab uses Dell 5820 workstations almost exclusively. They can be very quirky devices, especially with expansion chassis. Things that have improved our success in the past:
1) Make sure your bios is up to date. They are still fixing things to this day. Dell Command Update is a decent utility for managing that stuff.
2) Make sure you are using the correct PCIe slot. All slots use a full size connector, but not all of them are electrically connected (ie a x16 physical slot with only x4 electrical connections). The MXI card probably needs at least a x8, but may partially work on a x4.
3) If you are using ECC RAM, be sure to follow the manual's valid layouts. Also, the cold boot times (especially after modifying RAM) are absolutely glacial. You just have to wait them out, unfortunately.
4) Make sure you disable relevant power saving features on the PCI bus. I forget what they call them, but there are a couple options that need to be disabled when using an expansion chassis for reliable operation.
-David