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Jul 21, 2024, 12:49:03 PM7/21/24

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I am so excited to present a post David Derkson. I discovered his writings a few months back and have been impressed on how he handles the issue of divorce. What really jumped out at me is care for the wronged person in a divorce. Contrary to popular opinion in certain religious circles, there can be a wronged person who did not contribute to the divorce. I realized that there are many people in evangelical circles who need to hear this.

He addresses two other concerns that I have in this area. John Piper's rigid view of divorce has permeated today's churches. I believe Piper is dead wrong in his pronouncements and Rev. Dave addresses this directly.

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Although I do not know the details, Rev Dave endured an ecclesiastical trial for divorcing his adulterous wife. This broke my heart. Not only was his world turned upside down due to his former wife's infidelity, he had to face another trial by his own denomination. He understands the pain of those who have had to withstand such cruelty.

I think many of readers will find his thoughts helpful and comforting. I will be linking to his blog permanently at TWW. (All highlighted words within paragraphs is due to Dee wanting to be sure you saw something she found interesting.)

My name is David Derksen. I am a family man, football enthusiast, amateur weight trainer, coffee connoisseur, passionate blogger, ordained evangelical minister, and professional chaplain. As far as credentials are concerned, I have a Bachelor of Arts from Carleton College in philosophy, a Master of Divinity from Yale, five units of Clinical Pastoral Education (CPE), endorsement for chaplain ministry from the National Association of Evangelicals (NAE), ordination from the Lutheran Evangelical Protestant Church (LEPC/EPC/GCEPC), and hold the status of being a Board Certified Chaplain (BCC) with an affiliate of the Association of Professional Chaplains (APC). My current day job is as a hospice chaplain and bereavement coordinator. This is just by way of saying I understand pastoral care having specialized my training in this area and am, thereby, a professional with authority to speak on such issues.

Without going through each proof text and Biblical argument Piper makes to support his position, I will just highlight two places where I consider his arguments especially weak. I will be drawing his position from his short and focused piece on these matters referenced earlier (see -the-bible-allow-for-divorce-in-the-case-of-adultery).

Piper goes on to dismiss the exception clauses for divorce in Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19:9 as not referring to adultery but rather fornication as the word Jesus uses (original is "porneia") may have that meaning. He makes the argument that Jesus was thinking of his parents in their situation prior to his birth as Jesus said this and was encouraging people to marry not letting past sexual sin (i.e. fornication) prevent them.

Honestly, this argument is far from coherent. If you are not married, then you cannot get divorced. Even if Jesus is thinking of the betrothed situation of his parents (similar to legal marriage today), Joseph's decision to divorce quietly (see Mt. 1:19) was attributed to his righteous character!

I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. Yet I saw that her unfaithful sister Judah had no fear; she also went out and committed adultery. Jer 3:8

To be clear, Piper is taking a stance on an interpretation plus personal conviction and not a command found in Scripture while underplaying passages where God takes adultery seriously. This is hedging awfully close to spiritual abuse as it is making a command out of an extreme conviction and pushing that view from a pastoral position.

This is what Piper does. He tells us what the Holy Spirit meant to say. IMO, Piper is anything but conservative when it comes to the actual texts. He *is* conservative with his *interpretation* of certain texts and conflates his *interpretation* of what God said with what God actually said. He is holier than God himself and wiser than the Holy Spirit to boot. Piper and Grudem have, together, rewritten the story of the Bible and made it into a rule book that rivals professional baseball or golf.

I am beginning to sound like a broken record, but I will say it again: These people will never change. It is up to individual Chritians to educate themselves and grow some discernment, so that when piping Pipers come along, they are marginalized and laughed at. Why they are accorded great honor and such just leaves me baffled.

Maybe I am refining too much, but I find it a very troublesome sentiment that elevates breaking one of the ten commandments above ending a relationship, even though it is said to raise a few laughs and show how committed you are to the marriage.

That said three lines grabbed me when they asked did you ever think this would be the story of your life? So I decided to pen about my life. Did I ever think I would live in DC? Did I ever think I would have a faith crisis? Did I ever think I would have a close call in the ER? Did I ever think I would face a false accusation from a military officer?

Then I ask a lot of questions that others might resonate. Did you ever think you would have a child dealing with an eating disorder? Did you ever think you would have a miscarriage? Did you ever think you would have a loved one attempt suicide.

A lot of Christian people (usually women) end up staying in abusive marriages much longer than they should because of all these faulty teachings by preachers about marriage, divorce, and remarriage out there.

Its funny. When kids are little parents are convinced little Johnny will be an Olympian or are the smartest children on the planet. Then, somewhere around middle school, things begin to even out and little Johnny is now an average baseball player and little Susie is doing above average but not a star.

Exactly, it is truly about the power. I write about that here ( -divorce-is-always-unacceptable/). As long as divorce is always unacceptable, that make everything else in the marriage acceptable including some pretty awful and destructive sins.

Consider what is lost when women attempt to assume a more masculine role by appearing physically muscular and aggressive. It is true that there is something sexually stimulating about a muscular, scantily clad young woman pumping iron in a health club.

I would love to have a discussion with you on this-perhaps over on your blog. If one looks at the OT, there is a pattern of sin, banishment, repentance, restoration-nan ongoing, never ending cycle. That is why I have a bit of a problem with the State of Israel being part of some prophecy of restoration. This would be the first time God restored the people to their land without a widespread show of repentance within that one people group for the collective sins that sent them into captivity. Many of those Jews, as well as Christians, became slaves to the Romans and were scattered throughout the Roman empire.

There was no specific prophesy that this was a punishment aimed at the people of Israel at the time of the destruction of the Temple in 70 AD when the final diaspora took place. God had turned his attention to all people who would be grafted onto the root of Jesse.

It was that particular book that made me realize that something was seriously off kilter with the gender role crowd. They are rereleasing the book now. I am dumbfounded. If they hope to attract thoughtful people, that book should be sidelined. I may need to do a post why I think that book is super creepy!

This in effect means I largely agree with Piper on this, having carefully read his papers a while ago, though I formed this view before I had ever heard of him. Incidientally, because Piper says highly questionable things on other matters this does not mean he is wrong on this.

He designated remarriage after divorce as adultery. Luke 16 v 18 refers. (Every one who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.) Also echoed in the other gospels and Paul.

I have never heard this subject mentioned in sermons in churches I have attended (in the UK), and it is small wonder the problems this is storring up. Marriage is in the most appalling state there, with the church ever more tempted to follow the culture around it.

In my generation in our extended family there have been several troubled marriages, some of which resulted in legal divorce and some not. In one case the spouses lived apart for years and then moved back in together.

If one looks at the issues of divorce and annulment within the RCC, and if the secular media are to be believed, one sees a similar picture of increasing incidence of both divorce and annulment being reported. I believe they are about to have a conference (?) about marriage and family issues shortly; again my source is the secular media.