Greetings!
It is 9 Am as I write this letter and our 15 and 13 year old kids are still asleep. Summer has just started for us, no early morning scramble, more opportunity for family time and socializing, but like many of you I have to make sure that my kids have some structure and boundaries for the long summer.
When parents are working and let teens stay home alone how do we set and maintain rules for Internet and social networking time, safety limits and going out? I offer a few small steps that can help.
Make it clear what the rules are for teens to make social plans including calling or texting you for permission to leave the house with friends. Make sure you are clear that you will need to say OK to plans unless they have been approved in advance.
Designate a few chores each day to be done while teens are home and encourage outside, active plans when ever possible each day.
Take advantage of any flextime arrangements at work to be home more this summer and make an effort to be as involved as you can be in teens' activates this summer, calling other parents and connecting with them about teens' plans.
it is also not too late to have your child participate in many local day programs run through parks and recreation departments and local youth oriented organization. Call your town offices or Google local activities. Even if your child objects, make sure they have at least some structured camps, events or day trips. Once they attend, they will enjoy themselves.
Teens love to sleep in and stay up very late as the summer progresses. Parents can help teens stay on a good sleep hygiene schedule during summer by waking them up by 10 - 11 each day and monitoring their bed time at night to regulate their sleep to 9 -11 hours per night. During the last two weeks of vacation you can adjust the wake up and 'bed time' so that your teen is not overwhelmed by the very early morning wake up to come when school begins.
And lastly, express a very clear message to your child that there will not be any use of alcohol, marijuana or any other drugs allowed this summer. Remind them of the safety risks of riding in the car with peers who might be using and set up a plan for their safety which includes your willingness to pick them up from plans or activities if they feel unsafe.
Enjoy the 10 weeks of summer ahead of us!
Sincerely,
Liz Jorgensen
Insight Counseling
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