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1.Age Gap in Marriage.


Dear Ann Landers: For the past four months, I have been in a deepening
friendship with a man who is 30 years younger than I am. (I am
divorced, in my mid-50s, and he is in his mid-20s.)

"Tony" and I have a wonderful time when we're together -- talking,
walking, laughing, going to the movies, watching football games,
eating, reading -- just about everything. I have no doubt that if we
were closer in age, we would be talking about marriage. But that big
an age difference, especially when the woman is the older one, makes
marriage hard to imagine.

My grandparents on both sides lived into their 80s and 90s, and were
active until the end, so that's encouraging, but we can both do the
math. We realize that when Tony is 30, I will be 60, and when he is
60, I will be 90.We know that all couples have problems, but we're
worried that ours might be more difficult than most, in spite of our
compatibility.

I don't remember seeing anything about this in any of your columns,
and I've been a faithful fan of yours from before Tony was born. I'm
hoping that some of your readers will have some insight for us, either
positive or negative, based on some personal experience. -- No Name,
No City, No State, No Hope?

Granted, the age difference is a big one, but I wouldn't advise you to
end the relationship based on that. There are no guarantees in
relationships. You could marry a man your age and be divorced within
six months. The same goes for Tony. More and more, age is becoming
only a number in relationships. Unless Tony wants children, it sounds
as if you two are totally compatible, and that bodes well for the
future. I wish you luck and many happy years together.


#Question

1) If you are Ann Lander, how do you advise to the counselee?
2) There is a sentence "Love doesn't need anything". What do you think
of it?
3) Have you ever seen any couple with big age-gap? How did you feel
when you saw that couple?
4) Many people say that they exactly know what love is. Maybe you also
say like that. So What is the real love that you have in your mind?


2.Confidence

Every day is a new day in our life. There is much to do today. The
early morning sun inspires us to start things freshly and put back our
past. Only a handful of us make use of this fresh bunch of energy. In
various walks of life this affects the way we behave and our
confidence level. Confidence is a key to survive in this world. It is
the only key tool to win the rat race in every walk of life.
Confidence in ones owns capabilities combined with sincere efforts
help one to achieve unthinkable heights. But many times we see that
this basic element of confidence is missing in us. As a result of lack
of confidence we perform well below our caliber. Be it in a public
speech, proposing your beloved, vivas in your college or in an
interview or say even on the eve before your exams. This can be due to
fear of being rejected or any other reason.

If we look into our hearts and think, we will come to know that fear
inside us is going to get us nowhere. The confidence inside us is
going to take us places. This is because with confidence we can put
our thoughts into words in a better and pleasing way. So we have to
get out of that shell where we think whether people will accept us as
we are. Instead of living in these unending moments of fear it is
better if we project ourselves with the skills we have with the gloss
of confidence.

Confidence should glow in us only till the point where our personality
is boosted. Above this it leads to over-confidence that is harmful.

“Confidence is all about being cool, calm and composed“

#Question

1)What is your concept of confidence?
2)Are you confident enough during a viva or a job interview? If not,
how will you overcome the problem of lack of self confidence?
3)If you are on the verge of loosing a game, will you quit the game or
fight till the last?
Explain why
4)Have you ever had Dutch-Courage ?
5)It’s always a challenging task to propose to the one you love!
Would you share your experience?



3.Television.

A lot of people in modern society are hooked on TV. This idiot box has
a "third parent" to our children, and a "second spouse" to married
people. These folks say they seem to feel comfortable only when they
are with TV set.

Critics say we learn nothing when we watch TV because there is no room
where we can exert our imaginative power over what we"re seeing. We
become passive in thinking and in behavior, and this harms our
physical as well as our mental health. Another problem for people,
especially young ones, is that TV produces copycat behavior. Many
legal experts believe the delinquency problem is due to the tendency
of young people to imitate what they have seen.

What should we do to avoid the bad side effects of watching TV? The
first step is for parents to decide what their children see. Then
parents and teachers need to educate young people on how to watch TV
with a critical eye.



#Question

1.How many hours do you watch TV a day or a week?

2. What is your favorite program? What type of program would you
like or hate?

3. How do you use a TV set ? For educational reason or for time-
marking( time-killing), or for your daily habit?

4. Tv is sort of sensationist in many parts. Do you trust? If not, why?