:The Quarter-Life-Syndrome - Quite True!!
Subhash g
Being Twenty-Something
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with
the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that
you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder
where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely
know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that,maybe, those friends
that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you
have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most
important ones.
What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't
really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as u
You look at your job...and it is not even close to what you thought you
would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you
are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
You miss the comforts of college...of groups, of socializing with the same
people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so
great after all. You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want
and don't want in life.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find
yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have
certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your
list of what is acceptable and what isn't.
One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry
with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and
confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past
with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and
further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move
forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such
damage to you. Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent
enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but
love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because
you know that you aren't a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with
your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a
decision.
You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for
yourself.....and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just
like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.
We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can
to figure this whole thing out.
Send this to your twenty-something friends...
maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of
confusion.........
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Regards
Subbu