Needs exercise update

[Peggy Archuleta]

Dear Friends,

I recently asked Barbara about the needs exercise, and the last time I heard from her, she still did not have internet service.   She indicated that it’s very tedious to try to email from her phone.  She said she continues to read all the posts and plans to jump back in at some point. 

In the meantime, I have decided to ponder CONNECTION and ALL its subcategories (as a bundle, so to speak) for January and February.  If anyone would like to join me, here is a list of the subcategories of the “Connections Bundle”:  Acceptance, affection, appreciation, belonging, cooperation, communication, closeness, community, companionship, compassion, consideration, consistency, empathy, inclusion, intimacy, love, mutuality, nurturing, respect/self-respect, safety, security, stability, support, to know and be known, to see and be seen, to understand and be understood, trust, warmth.

I went back to the first email Barbara sent out when she started the Needs exercise, and I love what she wrote below:

...how about we take one need from that IIT Needs Inventory and hold that need in our collective consciousness....and, as inspired, share what we experience....filled with the energy of that need...Noticing things like....

·       what that "need" energy actually feels like in your whole body

·       how much that need is actually met, moment by moment, in the course of a day

·       what requests we can make of ourselves to increase the fulfillment of that need in our lives (now, today, in our life in general)

·       what requests we can make of others to increase the fulfillment of that need in our lives (now, today, in our life in general)

·       how we can contribute to the fulfillment of that need in others (partners, family, friends, co-workers, people in our lives who challenge us, and so on) (now, today, in their life in general)

·       how does this need relate to social change?

·       what else are you noticing?

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Contemplating CONNECTION seems like a good way to start 2014.   I know some of you have some amazing things going on, and I would really love to hear an update.  That would meet my need for connection beautifully right now. 

And if you have any reflections to share around Connection, please share as you feel moved to do so.  I’m wondering if anyone would be interested in taking on the month of March to keep us going?

Wishing you the best year ever...

Love to all,

Peggy

[Amy Vossen Vukelic]

thanks for the update, Peggy, and holding the "baton" in the wake of Barb's internet reality.....to both of you, I appreciate your willingness to keep this alive for all of us. 

Yes, Peggy, i would like to stay mindful of Connection in Jan and Feb.....I wanted to respond to you that I am in interested, respecting that you appreciate them. I will take the next few days to let the How enter, and then share again. 

In peace and gratitude, 

Amy

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[Katherine Winter-Sellery]

Dear Peggy and iit community of friends,

Hello!!!!  Happy New Year to you all!  Thanks for the Barbara update Peggy, I had been wondering!  

I also want to say Happy Birthday to you sista!!  I just got up so I haven't had a chance to celebrate you yet, but, I want to and will toast to you today!

I have a fun story of connection.

We were at my friend's 'waifs and strays' holiday party recently and met someone new, a stranger if you will, Emma and Andrew.  We were engaged in the 'getting to know you' dance.  Emma's English and Andrew's from Tasmania.  I had never meet either before but Andrew reads the news for CNN every morning and now that we met I watch it and smile and feel a whole new connection to the news!  They've been in HK for ages.  She and her family had just moved from The Peak area of HK to Clear Water Bay (which is where I live) and I asked her where in CWB she lived.  She described it and I mentioned that our friend had lived in that part too and my daughter would go over and jump on their trampoline and she said "oh, was that Lucy Fennel's daughter Sophie?" and I said yes!  We are living in her house now, Lucy moved to Pok Fu Lam.  What a small world!  We ended up giving them a ride home and it turns out she has a 14 year old daughter Tilda (my daughter Pia's age) and we speak a bit about our girls and hers loves to eat and mine loves to bake and we decide they are made for each other and we'll get them together while her's is home from boarding school.  Over the week a few emails are exchanged about baked goods and due to my daughter's penchant for baking I am always looking to disburse baked goods before I EAT THEM ALL -- we had one piece of my mom's southern bread pudding left and it did emerge that it was Emma's favorite so I dropped it by on my way to run errands and caught Emma as she was heading off to a dinner party.  The next day I awoke to an email from a friend who had been at dinner the night before and her friend was going on about the new neighbor she had just met -- an American woman that dropped by some bread pudding as she was heading out the door that night -- Cathy asked what the American woman's name was and it turned out to be me and Cathy smiled and said that she knew me too (such a small world - right?).  It get's better.  Friday night we had a party at the house for a friend's daughter who turned 19.  My 19 year old and her 19 year old grew up together.  They moved back to Australia many years ago but were in town..... we're in the kitchen catching up and I mention the small world story and she says, "Lucy Fennel -- I know Lucy Fennel -- I handled the mediation when she divorced and my son is now working for her film crew (Lucy makes films for National Geographic, etal!!) -- NO WAY -- so yesterday Emma and Andrew bring Tilda over to meet Pia and have some of her left over lemon blueberry pound cake she made for the birthday party the night before.  The girls are looking for connection .... well where did you go to school in HK before you left for boarding school...  where did you live when you lived on the Peak .... and Tilda says we lived next to some American's -- maybe you know them.. The Kuzmik's?  Pia and Jack Kuzmik were like a little married couple in elementary school -- the best of friends -- and then they found their connection ...  when Emma, Andrew and Tilda left they dropped Pia for me at the subway cuz she was off to meet friends -- later Emma wrote me and said "I feel like Pia and Tilda really connected" ......... 

Love to ya'll!

xox

Katherine 

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