nearly March
Peggy Archuleta
Dear Friends,
It’s nearly March and time to begin contemplating the energy of another need or group of needs.
I have thought about CONNECTION and all its many components during January and February. From time to time an experience would especially grab my attention. Here is an example:
One evening our family was celebrating a grandchild’s birthday at my daughter’s home. The other grandma and I were both sitting at the dining room table chatting. One of my granddaughters came in from outside, walked right past me, and stopped to hug her other grandmother, who was sitting next to me. Ouch. So many questions came up for me, and the next morning I woke up thinking about my relationship with this granddaughter. As I was driving along stewing over it, I suddenly had a change of heart. It wasn’t about me any longer. The other grandmother is wonderful and has invested much time in our grandkids. She has earned all the love they give her, and I felt very, very happy for her. I don’t feel any less connected to my grandkids, and the joy I feel for the other grandmother has completely erased the hurt I initially felt. It was an interesting, unexpected experience.
Recently, I had a regular monthly meeting with my boss. Prior to the meeting I determined that I would let my boss know what my needs are around my connection with her. I told her how I feel when certain things happen, and I told her what I need in order to feel safe and secure in our relationship. She took my requests to heart and has been communicating in a much more enjoyable way for me. I feel that my connection with her is more meaningful than ever.
I’m beginning to think of the needs less as holes to be filled and more as gifts already in my possession, and I’m enjoying the energy of those gifts because of a heightened awareness of them. I’m also appreciating the value of honesty in communication and the ability to ask for what I need from others.
This evening I read over some of Barb’s initial emails when we started this exercise. They are so rich and satisfying.
Time for someone else to take on March in whatever way best suits that person. You totally have my support! :)
Love you all,
Peggy