Why has Islam prohibited dating?
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Kayid Al-Kuffar
Jun 11, 2008, 10:31:43 AM6/11/08
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Why has Islam prohibited dating?
"Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world shall not
exist among Muslims -- where a man and a woman (or boy/girl) are in a
one-on-one intimate relationship, spending time together alone,
getting to know each other in a very deep way.
A man and a woman are not allowed to be alone together, and any
physical contact before marriage is forbidden. Hence, Dating is not
permitted in Islam.
Allah has prohibited girl/boyfriend relationships in the Qur'an
"(Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from the believers and
chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and
Christians) before your time, when you have given their due Mahr
(bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of
marriage), desiring chastity (i.e. taking them in legal wedlock) not
committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as
girlfriends. ... - Al-Ma'idah 5:5.
If a Muslim man has the desire and willingness to assume marital
responsibilities, and he doesn�t have anyone in mind, he might ask his
friends, family, and relatives if there is a lady that might be
suitable for him among their acquaintances and relatives, and then the
couple can meet with their family members.
As a result, many marriages in the Muslim world were traditionally
arranged marriages, though this is not a religious requirement.
However, both couples can not be forced to accept an arranged marriage
and if a man likes someone (with the intention of marriage) that he
knows from work, neighborhood or acquaintances, etc� he shall propose
to her.
Islam also encourages Muslims to marry persons for whom they have
special feelings and are comfortable with. Thus, Islam recommends that
potential marriage partners see one another before proposing marriage.
Explaining the reason for such a recommendation, Prophet Muhammad
(pbuh) said:
That would enhance/foster the bonding.
However the prospective couple shall not meet in private, this might
lead to extremely unwanted situations, as Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)
said :
Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan is the third among them�
(Reported by At-Tirmidhi)..
At all times, Muslims should follow the commands of the Qur'an "Tell
the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden
things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts,
etc.). That is purer for them. "
In conclusion, Islam lays its social structure on the basis of a
permanent relationship between a man and a woman in the form of a
family.
Consequently, to preserve this marital relationship, it forbids all
forms of temporary relationships between a man and a woman. Pre-
marital relationships in Islam are not considered respectful for
neither the man nor the woman, nor is it constructive for the concept
or the building the family or the Islamic society.
Source: islam.about.com
http://www.islamonline.com/news/newsfull.php?newid=761
"Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world shall not
exist among Muslims -- where a man and a woman (or boy/girl) are in a
one-on-one intimate relationship, spending time together alone,
getting to know each other in a very deep way.
A man and a woman are not allowed to be alone together, and any
physical contact before marriage is forbidden. Hence, Dating is not
permitted in Islam.
Allah has prohibited girl/boyfriend relationships in the Qur'an
"(Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from the believers and
chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and
Christians) before your time, when you have given their due Mahr
(bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of
marriage), desiring chastity (i.e. taking them in legal wedlock) not
committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as
girlfriends. ... - Al-Ma'idah 5:5.
If a Muslim man has the desire and willingness to assume marital
responsibilities, and he doesn�t have anyone in mind, he might ask his
friends, family, and relatives if there is a lady that might be
suitable for him among their acquaintances and relatives, and then the
couple can meet with their family members.
As a result, many marriages in the Muslim world were traditionally
arranged marriages, though this is not a religious requirement.
However, both couples can not be forced to accept an arranged marriage
and if a man likes someone (with the intention of marriage) that he
knows from work, neighborhood or acquaintances, etc� he shall propose
to her.
Islam also encourages Muslims to marry persons for whom they have
special feelings and are comfortable with. Thus, Islam recommends that
potential marriage partners see one another before proposing marriage.
Explaining the reason for such a recommendation, Prophet Muhammad
(pbuh) said:
That would enhance/foster the bonding.
However the prospective couple shall not meet in private, this might
lead to extremely unwanted situations, as Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)
said :
Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan is the third among them�
(Reported by At-Tirmidhi)..
At all times, Muslims should follow the commands of the Qur'an "Tell
the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden
things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts,
etc.). That is purer for them. "
In conclusion, Islam lays its social structure on the basis of a
permanent relationship between a man and a woman in the form of a
family.
Consequently, to preserve this marital relationship, it forbids all
forms of temporary relationships between a man and a woman. Pre-
marital relationships in Islam are not considered respectful for
neither the man nor the woman, nor is it constructive for the concept
or the building the family or the Islamic society.
Source: islam.about.com
http://www.islamonline.com/news/newsfull.php?newid=761
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