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[International Adoption]

In short, for you to be able to take that step, we
we advise you to allow yourself to enjoy the liveliness and  the unpredictability of the child
-- even if what he or she surprise you, first causes only alarm
and anxiety.
 If you want to get specific recommendations on how you can increase
the joy and pleasure of communicating with the child, try to do the following
exercises:
 Make a list of the ten acts of the child which surprised
you or were unexpected. Now try to find in each of these
acts such parties which can cause you to have feelings of joy,
pleasure, enthusiasm. Determine that in each case
seems to you naive in behavior of the child, or reminds your own
actions in the past -- or how much this or that act is characteristic
only for your child, reveals his identity. Find
each of these actions that would allow you to say: "I
understand why she would do that!"

[Mark Segal]

I remember one episode that I even stumped.
Had dinner in the station restaurant. At the same table with me were family
with children aged seven and ten. Ordered a house salad, expensive portions
dishes. Each. Salad the kids only picked at his. The adults treated him with
a little more attention. Elegant steaks, decorated with greens and
multi-colored "composite garnish", and adults and children only  stir and
mutilated. I can testify: and the salad and steaks were delicious.
Forty minutes later dad carelessly paid, and the family retired. Removing
the table, the waitress said in their hearts: "Money, money," and
suffered in the sink full of plates of delicious food. And I felt sorry for
chefs who labored in vain, and somehow even feel sorry for the cow that
for the sake of these steaks for nothing I put on slaughter's head. I thought why these people
came to the restaurant, if not wanted there, and why not limited at least
more modest order. People found this look not too prosperous.

[Mark Segal]

Ordinary workers. Maybe at home we live very modestly, you know the score and

rubles and kopecks... But, I suppose you went on a trip and decided

that "once" should be live "in a big way", so to speak,

"Bay window". Turns out this is the case when people decide to marry

the borders of the ordinary, break away from everyday life? Only because of the holiday and not

turned out to be. Turned out to be nonsense, turned out to be a petty bourgeoisie. And for children -

an example of the absurd wastefulness.

 Another time about money, "money", said  when I

the landlady in the Crimea. But here I wanted to argue. Came three of us:

mother, daughter, son. Asked for a room for two weeks. "Then where?" -

asked the landlady. "Back home, we rest in the village". On this

about the mistress, too, expressed disapproval: "it is Evident, money, 

so far two weeks to go!"