unique way of life and unique decisions

[International Adoption]

This is a fun unique way of life and unique decisions
other person and need for them make that we mean under
higher the level of love.
 Your child's love of this kind -- the most important thing you can
to do for him or for her.

And in a sense you've done all of this for many years.
Regardless of how negative your feelings about
the child in the moment, you'd never have any relationship with him
or her, if in its very basis it would not be the source of cherishing others
as the people. However, this kind of love can be hidden from parents for other
the behaviors associated mainly with various kinds of
responsibilities. So we will tell you how to extend such
the love for your child.
 There are two ways by which you can show this love, and
they are both very significant to both you and your child could
to be free of problems in your relationship and ceased to test
related anxiety. One their these ways we call
modeling: it is that you provide the child the opportunity
to see how you show love for your own inner self
and take care of it. More we will tell about it in chapters 5--9. Another
method -- active manifestation of your own needs and support
relation to unique ability of your child to take
own decisions. It is highly likely that much of what you do in
now what, in your opinion, should be helpful for your
the child, actually reduces this ability and blocks it
manifestations. We therefore ask you to change your way of thinking to
whatever you do, it would be focused on maintaining and providing
opportunities for the expression of ability of your child
to make their own decisions. If you will do that, 
automatically will help him in all his manifestations.

[Mark Segal]

Why do unripe fruits have a stomach ache? Where health is in the stomach or in the
head? Health is the soul? Why the dog can live without a soul, and man is not?
And the doctor can get sick and die like this? Why do all great people die?
It is true that there are those who write books and live? Queen alwaysdie:
they are not tenants in this world. The Queen has wings? The priest saw God? Can
eagle to fly to the sky? God prays? What do angels do-sleep, eat,
play football? who sews them dresses? Hell very painful? Toadstool poisoned
devils? If God doesn't like murderers, why he orders to pray for them? Moses
was very scared when he saw God? Why isn't daddy praying, God
let? Thunder is a miracle? The air is God? Why can't we see air?
Immediately he comes in an empty bottle or gradually? how does he know that there
already no water? Why the poor fight, if they did not fight, they would be better
been? If it's not a miracle, why nobody can make the rain'? What
made the clouds? Aunt, far away, she in a coffin?
 How naive hope of the parents (just don't call them advanced). what.
telling children there is no God, they facilitate their understanding of the world: no
God, what is? who all did and do the things that will happen when I die?
Where did the first man'? Is it true that if you do not pray, we live,
as the beast? Dad says there is no angel, and I saw an angel. If it
not a sin, why not kill? After all hurt the chicken when it is cut.
 The same doubts and anxious questions.

[Mark Segal]

Sad tale, the mystery of poverty.
 Why hungry, why poor. why he was cold why not buy.
. why he has no money. why it don't allow "for both"?
 You say:
 Poor children are dirty, they say bad words, in my head at them worms.
Poor children get sick, they can get infected. They fight, throw stones,
beat each other's eyes. The yard can not walk, to the kitchen - also: there is no
nothing interesting.
 Mind and life:
 "And did they not suffer all day worn wherever you want, drink water from
well, buying delicious candies in colorful wrappers. Boy does
himself a broom, sweeping the yard, cleans the snow is awfully nice. No worms in
no, it is not true, the stones they throw, their eyes, they
don't fight, and fight. Bad words funny, and in the kitchen a hundred times
more interesting than in the room."
 You tell the kid:
 - The poor need to love and respect, they are kind, hard working.
Thank the cook-she cooks us dinner, watchman-he keeps order.
Play with his kids.
 And lifeobject:
 "The cook killed a chicken, tomorrow we will eat it, mom will too, because
what the boiled chicken does not hurt,
 and the cook killed a living, mom is the messy look couldn. Watchman
drowned puppies and they were so pretty. At the cook rough hands, she
forever busy in dirty water. From the guy stinks. From a Jew too. The vendor is not
called the lady, just say the vendor, and the guard is not called pan, and
just the watchman. Dirty children of the poor, when they show something. they
beginning to ask: "Give", if not provided, the tear cap, laughing, and one
even spit, right in person spat..."
 The child is still not heard of evil wizards, but cautiously approaching
to the poor, to give to penny.
 The child knows that he just not say that in this lies
something dirty, something he doesn't want or can't explain.

[Mark Segal]

Native speech is not selected and adapted for the child's inhibitions and
sermons, and the air that breathes his soul along with the soul of the entire nation.
True and doubt, faith and tradition, love and hate, frivolity and
the seriousness, dignity and servility, poverty and wealth, century
hard work and gloomy years of slavery, all that you have created in the inspiration of the poet
and vomited into a drunken delirium scum.
 Who pondered all these things, who wrote about it who investigated how
destroy this element harmful bacteria and to saturate it with ozone? Who knows
maybe then it turned out that not vulgar "shit", and salon
"woman-yum" contains the germ of decomposition?
 "Blessed be. God punished. Impure beguiled. As in Paradise. On
seventh heaven. In the house-a living hell. Good riddance. How in God's bosom. God
will be served. The Puritan. Mutters as the sacristan. Without a penny to my name. The soul in heels has left.
Sold his soul to the devil. Grekhovodnik. The gray beard-devil in the rib.
 To health. Your health. Monday is a hard day. Hiccup- so
someone remembers about me. The knife fell-the guest is in a hurry. The soup is too salty the cook
fell in love. One foot in the grave.
 Chinese ceremony. Gypsy wedding. Lordly grace. Sassy
erysipelas. Orphan share.
 The old bat, you old idiot. Jerk, fool, puppy, chicken, milk
on the lip.
 Not blind, but blind. Not old. and elderly. Not a cripple, and crippled.
 Dog weather. White-knuckling it. Ratted me out. Bitch. Mad with rage.
 Yelling like mad. A ravenous appetite. I'll show him where crabs spend the winter.
 No king in his head. In a head wind. To throw dust in the eyes. Bulbs not
enough. To burst with laughter. Cheap get rid of it. Know inside out.
She had a show. Life has poisoned me".
 What is this'? Where did that come from?. Who needs it?
 Cork is a noun, the tube is subject.
 Why: stupid man? Pan, who invented grammar, was clever?

[Mark Segal]

Children don't like these confusing terms. though Nora and try smite!
i> of others. They learn adults selectively, obviously
defying some commonly used momentum.
 "Look, give me this. You spot me. Hey,let me see".
 "Hey, listen"-the analogues of our "please". Ask for a child means
"to beg" (the beggar asks). The child does not like this humiliating
turnover.
 "I think I'm going to ask? Don't ask him. Here's another request I'm in!"
 "Wait, I'll ask!"
 I remember one surprisingly charming expression:
 - It turns out you are, and I have asked you to...
 Even to adults, the child prefers the form "let your mom,
let the pan" and only under duress "asks".
 The word "understand" child replaces at least unpleasant"I'm sorry".
 You know, I accidentally. You know, I didn't want. You know, I didn't know.
 But the variety of revolutions of persuasion and warnings to avoid
sudden scenes:
 "Come on, come on, don't start, go on your way.
Stop it. Move. I'm telling you, stop it. I beg you to stop (it
 not a request, but an order). You will be left behind someday? Look, you
will stop it?" Threat:
 - You want to? Plucked? You'll see regret is still. I
cry.
 Dismissive doubling of the expression:
 OK, OK.. I know, you know... wait, Wait...
 We force the child to be afraid of.
 "I really need to be afraid... you don't imagine that I'm afraid. Here's another,
I fear it very much".
 Any property of the child is questionable: he cannot give it, not
asking permission, cannot be destroyed, it has just the right
use.
 - Your Desk, your Desk?
 - And here's my (or your?).
 - I was here first..
 "First" took place, started to play, began to dig. Adult, guarding
own peace, very superficially resolve disputes of children.
 It's bothering me. He first started. I'm standing, and he...
 An interesting form of negative:
 I'm his... And I don't start running away... And we start
laugh.
 The content of a story -mischief, and maybe "not" echo prohibitions?
 Remember, you promised. Gave the word. Breaking your word.
 Who didn't keep his promise, the pig. Adults should be aware of this.
 A wealth of material for study.

[Mark Segal]

It will become sensible, able to calculate, what to buy, not
will be "throwing money away". All these qualities are positive. Treat
them with disdain means to show lordly snobbery. But suddenly the girl and
really believe that, not only being in his mind, you can opt for a twig
Mimosa or a rose flower a kilogram of high-grade fruit?
 As for the roses... do you Remember the fairy tale by Oscar Wilde "the Nightingale and the rose"?
The Professor's daughter, known to prefer the "real jewels" "the
red of roses of the world". "Everybody knows, - she said - that they are much
more than flowers". However, the daughter of Professor did not know that this rose satiated
his blood dedicated the Nightingale. But the life of little tatty
birds would be worth in her eyes little more than a flower that didn't fit
for her dress. "In this age to be practical is that's all", - decided then the lover
student and can, easily parting with his love, returned to science.
And the daughter of Professor in no doubt.
 I remember as a child I wept over a lost Nightingale. Now I'm sorry
the girl who took the jewels and rejected the rose. Because to be
practical is all. Neither in the present nor the and past century. Only
practical means to be robbed.