Expect To Win Hate To Lose Pdf Download
Scat Laboy
For any San Diego Chargers fan that has been a fan of the team long enough, you almost certainly feel the most pain when they lose to the Oakland Raiders. The reasons for this are many. The Raiders have long been one of the dirtiest (and most penalized) teams in The League. This was by design. Al Davis loved fielding a team like that. They have one of the largest and most obnoxious (stabbing people is obnoxious, right?) fan bases in sports. That's the result of a great deal of success and an admittedly badass color scheme and logo. The Raiders aren't just easy to hate, they're difficult not to hate.
That leaves us with the question, "who do you hate losing to the most after the Raiders?" I expect a lot of you to name another AFC West rival, and if you do I'd also like to hear which non-AFC West team is next on your list, but for me the team I hate watching my Chargers lose to the most is the Pittsburgh Steelers.
The Pittsburgh Steelers, much like the Raiders, were really good for an extended period of time before I was born. They also play in a state with a miserable climate. As such, their fans (and there are a bunch of them) have spread out across the country and can be found in just about any sports bar you visit on a Sunday in football season. Also, they tend to be the variety of fan that likes to act as though they're somehow responsible for the success of the franchise they choose to root for. It's pretty terrible, and they should feel terrible for being that kind of person, but they don't. Their complete lack of shame over things they should be ashamed of only makes it worse. The fact that the Chargers never beat the Steelers also adds fuel to the fire.
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I hate to lose more than anything. I have interviewed hundreds of sales professionals over the years and I always ask the question of hate to lose vs love to win. To date I have never hired anyone that said they love to win more than they hate to lose.
High performing individuals, organizations and teams expect to win and do so frequently. The thrill of victory is gone in a flash but the agony of defeat lingers indefinitely. How you handle losing will define who you are. Are you a sore loser or gracious in defeat? Do you own the loss or blame others? Do you chalk it up to bad luck or analyze your failure?
Anyway, reading this blog post has helped me feel less guilty about my resentment. I am still trying to figure out some practical strategies to get through this period of my life and still have some health and energy left when it is finally over.
Very poignant. It hit all the feels. So much internal rage, resentment, and the weight that I will endlessly be trapped in this reality of obligation to support her over my own needs, wants and desires of living my own life.
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I finally got onto the property ladder and of course my mother moved with me. There was never a moment where she ever considered that this would not be the case. ( The rest of my family never questioned this either)
Of course my younger brothers dont do a thing, one lives abroad with his partner and the other down south with his partner. None of them offer to assist financially or otherwise. I guess they assume me being the only daughter that I should automatically assume the role of caregiver. I also feel they resent her for leaving it so late to leave my father, knowing she would not have any property or savings of her own.
I have a 23 years son of my own living away and working hard. I never want to burden him the way my mother has me. I have a private pension in place, life insurance and expect to be mortgage free within 3 years time. If I get sick, I will go into a care home- no arguments!
Clara: thank you for your note. It is proven research that daughters end up caring for their family more than sons. But have heart: we believe that you are never too old to get the life you deserve to have. Believe and hang tough.
This is me so thankyou so much for writing it. I hate myself at times as have wished my mother dead and then feel like a wicked person, but she gets to me so much at times. I have 3 siblings but none of them have contact with her so its down to me. I was sobbing my heart out reading your story as I can identify with you so much.
Thanks for this. All situations are different but the similarities are there. I feel like I am dragging two large boulders around all the time (Mom and Dad). I never wanted this role and am angry and resentful. Also depressed and hopeless and sometime hateful.
My Mom has been self-centered her whole life, loving us kids a lot but much more concerned for herself and her needs. She wanted to be close friends and use me as a support starting when I was about 10. When she tries to draw close, I want to run. Now her friends are dead and she is a mass of complaints, resentments and loneliness. Every conversation throws me into a tailspin. One of my brothers handles it better, one even worse.
My father was a benign guy, very passive, and in that passivity, also not there for us kids. Loving, yes, but not supportive. He now needs a full-time caregiver and total management of everything and thank goodness for one of my brothers who shares it and for some cash that makes the full-time caregiver possible for now.
My parents were attentive in my raising, though both working so very busy. So much so that under their guidance I was brought up to be very self reliant and independent. They were supportive of me and my siblings, even well into adulthood, to the point of having very little for themselves when they retired. I cant stress how selfless tgey have been.
Hi Bella: I understand the overwhelming state of your affairs with your mom. Find someone to talk to about this. It is a problem many people face: you are not alone. A good counselor will give you ways to handle her better.
I work with family caregivers, having been one myself. I get how hard it can be at so many levels. You become angry, depleted, and fearful about how you will lash out. Sometimes we do. But, it leaves us feeling worse than before.
My natural mother died when I was 4 and dad married my stepmother when I was 12, we never got on, she emotionally, mentally and physically abused me, treated me differently from my 2 brothers and also turned my brothers and dad against me, even my Nan said she used me as her slave, after an eating disorder and suicide attempt I left home at 18 and finally felt free.
So glad to have came across this article. My mom has been living with me for about five years. She has been depressed for years and has anxiety from hell and she barely leaves the house. But, she can totally fend for herself. her health besides the anxiety and depression is not too bad. she can still live a great life. She is 73. But she chooses just to slowly waste away and every day i get to see her wasting away and not doing a damn thing about it. I have tried everything possible to get her to get better. Drs, counselors, family meetings. Nothing makes this woman want to live life. I cannot take it anymore. watching her waste away is killing me. I am 48 and single and dating and I would love to meet someone and have a life with them but having to take care of my mom when she really can take care of herself is giving me anxiety that I have never have. And her negativity is beyond insane. Cant talk to her more than five minutes before i am so angry i have to walk away. She doesnt have much money to get her own place so trying to get her into senior living. I have finally said screw this, i have got to do what i need to do for myself. My health is starting to deteriorate because of the stress of dealing with her. and i love her so damn much. we used to be the best of friends. and i miss the person she used to be. I want my mom back but she doesnt want to fight for her life back and it makes me angry cause that makes me feel she doesnt want to fight for a longer healthier life with me and her grandchildren and her son. They dont see the stress we have on the care giving end of it. I am glad i am not alone on this and i truly feel for all of you.
Ditto for every emotion expressed here. My mother undermined and controlled me my entire life. I was also an only child and a daughter and after 20 years as a single parent of 4 , now handcuffed to my nearly 95 year old mother. My mother did a 180 at 93, suddenly telling me how wonderful I am and how much she loves me after abusing me to such a degree it set a blueprint for unhealthy relationships for life. She lives an hour away in her own home, a request written in the estate plan , and my life has been hell trying to fulfill her wishes. Three round the clock caregivers drive me insane and are draining the trust set up for me and eventually my four children . There is no end to the maintenance of her home and estate. I have finally set some boundaries and plan to be away a good portion of this summer. She has dementia , is in diapers and at 65 I am running out of time to live my own life. No one should be burdened like this.
I was so angry and desperate for more than two weeks, that I tried google to find answers and am so glad I found this page. Like several of the experiences here, I have, by sheer default, ended up as a caregiver for my mother. I am fifty-five today and she moved in to my home when I was 41. I have not had any chance to live my life at all and have taken the entire brunt of my parents failed marriage. She moved in after she separated from my father.
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