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A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He satand watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body
through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared
as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.
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So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snippedoff the remaining bit of the cocoon.
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The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shrivelledwings.
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The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at anymoment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body,
which would contract in time.
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Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling aroundwith a swollen body and shrivelled wings. It never was able to fly.
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What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that therestricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the
tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its
wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the
cocoon.
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Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God allowed us togo through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us.
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We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly!Above is a good example when we talk of training of junior officers and engineers in our
shipping industry. Many times we come across cadets (even junior officers) trying their
best to avoid work. They want to be put on newer vessels – with internet – vessels
which are not “
too old”. They are also keen to know the names of their superiors prior togoing on board. What they fail to understand at times is that the more difficult lives gets
for them at the initial stages, the better are their chances of becoming a good officer.
I watched an amazing film the other day - ‘Life of Pi’. It is the simple story of a boy who
is shipwrecked and spend days in a lifeboat together with the most dangerous adversary
you can think of – a full grown adult Bengal Tiger. In the end they create ways to be
able to survive together. What pleased me the most was the boy’s realization that had it
not been for the tiger, he would not have survived as the tiger kept him alert at all times
and scared that at any moment the tiger might see him as a delicious
steak.We all need these tigers in our lives. We need them by our side to help us stay on
ground level. They teach us how to survive and how to fight. They teach us how to be
good and efficient. They help us avoid the complacency which has the potential to finish
us. They also bring out the wild in us. They help us understand ourselves better and by
understanding our own selves, they create in us the ability to serve ourselves.
Little do we realize the life’s tigers when they approach. Most of the times they are
perceived as
killers from whom we should try to run. WORK is one such tiger. Ashumans, we always tend to shirk away from work. I am saying this and so have all the
great philosophers ever born. Life’s biggest success would be to be able to achieve
success without moving a finger. If this was possible then even I wish I never had to
work. But it is not to be like this. As long as the world stays, so will work. It is thus
essential to pick the best values at an early stage so that one gets prepared for the duel
ahead.
I remember as a Chief Officer we were on our way to Dubai dry docks when one day the
third mate said to me “ Do you know I have done 4 dry docking in my career”. “That is
really nice’ I said. “But that’s not the most interesting thing.” He continued..........”You
will not believe that I have not been inside a cargo tank even once”. I remember his
smile even today. It left me amazed for a long time.
The above example is not a standalone case. If you think back into your own
experiences you would find many such examples. These characters are all around us and
we deal with them every day. But the winner is the one whose values are the strongest.
The leader is the one who have braved it all at the initial stages. Here, the role of the
mentors is of paramount importance. A good mentor would be one who would
understand that if you support the butterfly wings when they are developing then it
would not be able to fly. Try making a tower at home with just newspapers. You would
realize that it is the strength of the base which decides how long the tower can be.
Unfortunately most of us do not realize the truth of this in our lives.
Someone who has been to a military camp would know how they train the entry level
cadets. The drill sergeants do not feel sorry for you. Whatever your problem is, you have
to suck it up and keep moving. Pain, exhaustion, hunger, heat, misery - it's all a part of
the experience, and don't even think about crying to your drill sergeant about any
emotional distress you may find in basic training. The drill sergeants do not care. They'll
only mock you and make your pain and suffering worse. But at the end of the training
you feel proud to salute them because they have empowered you with strength and
confidence.
I have great belief in the power of the mind. I feel it can win over everything – pain,
misery, sorrow, grief and of course hearts! If we can mould the mind to endure hardship
then half our problems would be solved without even trying. I cherish the days of having
had a really tough cadetship. For everything else, it has made me a stronger person. It
has helped me to fight even when my back is against the wall. I thank all the people who
decided not to clip my cocoon at the time I was growing. So that I can fly freely now
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Capt. Shoukat Mukherjee
V.Ships India Pvt Ltd
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