Janet's Relationships Question - Hexagram #18, 3

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Janet is in toxic relationships with her boyfriend of 3 years. She still has the good memories which hold her back making unsure if she should leave or try to repair these relationships. She asked I Ching for advice.

Janet Asked: “I am in toxic relationships with my boyfriend. I am not sure what should be my next step in this relationships. Please, advise“.  

I Ching answer to Janet was -18, 3: hexagram #18 with 3rd line moving.
She asked me for help in interpreting her casting result.

Interpretation.

Janet’s current situation is described by Hexagram #18 – Corruption, which transitions to Hexagram #4 Youthful Folly.

This leads us to the following reading based on www.IChing360.com Hexagram Explorer.

Primary Hexagram #18 – Corruption

Ideographic: The sign of three worms in a container. Not touched for too long, worms grew up and a container needs remediation before the situation is completely ruined.

Judgement: Work on what was spoiled. It furthers one to cross a great water.

Scholar Speaking: Something in your situation was corrupted and needs to be corrected. Think ahead and plan carefully before making any corrections. Doing nothing or continuing old, incorrect path will lead to failure and regret. This hexagram shows a good omen since the difficulties around you are equal to your ability to solve them.

Transitional Target Hexagram

Hexagram #4 Youthful Folly. Other Names: Inexperience; Immaturity; Empty Cup.

Ideographic: This sign shows a grass on the roof of the house - symbol of covering something. Below is a symbol of child who starts his education as a process of uncovering what is originally covered. Together they mean childhood and natural inexperience of child at that period of his life.

Scholar Speaking: This is a situation where you enter new path lacking maturity and experience. You need to learn a lot and learning doesn`t happen neither easy nor automatically. You cannot do it alone - Find a good teacher whom you trust and who can help you to get so needed knowledge. Don`t rush - remember old adage: when student is ready, teacher appears. Ignoring that rule can cause physical, emotional, spiritual and financial problems.

Reading Summary. 

Janet’s current relationships are corrupted and need correction. Continuing old, incorrect path will lead to failure and regret. This correction has all chances to be successful as her ability for change equals (or exceeds) the challenge in front of her. However, transition to the target, new stage of her life requires careful planning and learning new things in human relationships which she doesn’t poses yet.

When it comes to relationships, correction doesn’t mean neither break-up nor staying still. It means, first of all, discovering the reason of toxicity and learning (understanding) if it can be corrected. Many things here will depend on how her partner is willing and ready to change as well as on if this new, modified relationships will meet Janet’s expectations.  

Many things here will depend on how and to what extend both partners are willing to change as well as if this new, modified relationships will meet their mutual expectations.  

That is the main challenge for Janet. There are high chances thou that these relationships won’t be able to survive. 

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