Re: [HUL241] Existential take on Sex
Nikunj Bansal
Why o why?! It is so convulsing. Damn i am a slut from first type!
I hope people are still on this group, except "Nikunj' of course who obviously can't leave :P. I have an existential take on Sex. I don't know if it's trivial or something new 'coz it's been going on for so long in my head. Please judge and find faults at will, propose changes or alternative theories as you deem fit.--
EXISTENTIAL TAKE ON SEX:--If you look at existentialism as the struggle between body and personality, we can come to a comprehensive understanding of the different aspects of gender struggle and feminism. We all need to adopt a personality out of all the myriad possibilities of it and live with it, mending and twerking it as we go by. But the absurdity of it all makes us want to abandon it, and this leads to a constant struggle between body (by which I mean a personality-less being) and personality. All this is known.
Sex is a way of ridding ourselves of our personalities and some of it concurs with the death anxiety proposed by Freud. There are two kind of sex. One, where the man penetrates the woman and pushes his personality into her thereby freeing himself from his personality but also letting it sustain outside him through her body. In this way he emotionally connects to her (her body to be exact). The woman too rids herself of her personality by filling herself up with him.
The aim of the second type of sex from a man’s point of view is complete destruction of the woman. By exorcising the woman’s personality out of her body through harsh penetration rendering her to be mere flesh/object, he gains satisfaction at the realization of a solution to his own existential angst. For the woman it’s more direct and means complete eviction from the body. It is not emotional for the man in this case and optionally emotional for the woman depending on whether she chooses to maintain her link to the subject. (guess where the phrase ‘pati parameshwar’ came from...lol). I call the first sex: sex with mother and the second sex: sex with slut.
It answers a lot of questions. Most basic being “why have men treated women as lesser beings, ‘the second sex’ as Simon de Beauvoir frames it, since ages almost as if it is an instinct?”Clearly physical weakness cannot be the reason. Explains the penis envy that women might hold in an out of sex context where all their personalities are built up fortifying them from an existential crisis for having to play the second sex in the existential game. For a man only the first kind of sex is emotional while for the women both kinds are along with all the uncertainty to her own personality by constantly hosting the man or being evicted. It does explain why sex is more emotional to women.
Explains why young girls like dolls; dressing up, taking care of barbie dolls as if they were real: imagining life outside themselves. So my advice to girls who want to be intellectual, have strong personalities etc. etc. -> find men whom you want to mother and go for the first kind of sex, otherwise there is nothing in it for the man really. Or else loose everything, go dumb and slide into the second kind of sex. But then of course it is kind of freeing and conflicting at the same time to switch roles. So either way is good unless you stress yourself too much on it.
Explains why 'Catwoman' is so sexy. Cats have the most fleeting lives...with all the nine lives and everything. hehe.
A small extension: Maybe even homosexuality can be explained by this. Depending on whether you have grown up imaging yourself to be the ‘First’ or the ‘Second’ sex, your sexuality shapes up. There are cases where women like penetrating men with strap-ons and where some men actually like it. Complete opposite end of the spectrum might make men gay. Women who haven’t caught on to the second sex after realizing that they are inept at penetrating their mothers or have only a small inkling of the second sex characteristics can also turn out to be gay. This theory doesn't make penis envy an inescapable trait for women, it’s not even necessary to hold it for a lifetime once you have it. And of course it explains sexual characteristics in children who clearly are not physically developed for it. They have existential angst too.
P.S: you can see how any spill over from the sex life into normal life can cause gender struggles.
Sriharsha karnati
You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "HUL241_2012" group.
To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to hul241_2012...@googlegroups.com.
For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/d/optout.
Nikunj Bansal
Imagery is very vivid. It makes sex a gruesome act. I wonder who you do it with! And can't a man feel like a slut?
Convulsing as in causing laughter or contraction on muscles? and slut is second type. Anyhow...
Nikunj Bansal
No but my question was serious...common perception is that it is a woman's prerogative to please the man. What if the man feels its his responsibility to make her cum? Increasingly, sophisticated men feel the same way. A look at recent homemade desi sex videos reveals so.
And if you read existentialism first...it isn't very convulsing really!!On 7 March 2014 23:07, sriharsha karnati <sriharsh...@gmail.com> wrote:
LOL...i was going to add that as another P.S: that i am sorry if it kills sex for you. And of course you can, you just need to get a girl who is willing to fuck you with a strap on :P
--
Sriharsha karnati