Re: [HrutCollage] Fw: Home schooling / Unschooling

[Atul Abhyankar]

Its a healthy sharing loved it

On 29 Nov 2015 20:10, "'DipallE'' via HrutCollage" <hrutc...@googlegroups.com> wrote:

Dear All,  here I am forwarding the conversation with Hema who's in  USA , I have never met n yet she has been generous to engage with me on the subject pretty in depth. 

I found these links very useful. Hooe you enjoy them too. 

Let's keep this dialogue n monologue going. 

Urmila you are so right about this world of confusion n freedom n ease which is just perhaps a whole new conditioning I find myself submitting to.   I have never been good at just faffing around. ..chilling n I am learning that from Sonny.

sonny says...play mind craft ...its chill ax. Lol. N I am afraid it will remind me of autocue m my 2 decades as architect designer. .. oof..n yet I love listening to sonny why he's built a washroom n a light house just cause he likes it n in case any titanics are coming to crash on his island. .. Love it... simply love it.

cheers dipali

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On Fri, 11 Sep, 2015 at 6:31 PM, Hema A. Bharadwaj

<hbo...@gmail.com> wrote:

Thank you Dipalle for considering all the questions and sharing.

I love that I have an essay to share with you that directly speaks to Sonny's chant as a 3 year old: http://livingjoyfully.ca/articles/anne-ohman-i-am-what-i-am/

It seems to me that you may need some validation, as do we all from time to time, that all is well.  All seems well to me based on what you have shared. All is well. I love that line from 3 Idiots. Its true in all situations, apparently, according to my intuition. But I can't always accept my intuition. After all from birth I was told that what I "knew" had to be validated by someone else. I'm better at it now. I used to say that I followed my intuition about 6 times in my life... all big decision and all fantastic. But now its moment to moment. Allowing ourselves access to what makes us happy, easy and soft inside.. is our only work. Then intuition takes over and we can go along for the ride.

I often feel challenged and defensive when people refer to video games and their ilk as negative or non-educational.  I wrote this a long while ago: http://thebharadwajknights.blogspot.com/2010/09/about-violent-games.html

also: http://homeschoolers.in/shining-with-video-games/

And thanks to your email thread I stumbled upon this: https://youtu.be/dX-6WP4ptN0 

I simply love the 2012-Raghu in this video. He was adorable and true. Always has been unless I got in the way.

Also, it is a beautiful thing to watch deschooling.  I love where we are in our life but I'm still deschooling myself.  My kids never went to school.  But they went to Hema's school for a long time before Hema woke up and could start deschooling. There are so many internal shifts required on the parents part, that it is only natural to want validation, conversations, observations etc.  I have had many such moments and hours with Urmila, Dola, Priya and others.

After many years of living with my children 24x7, I think one thing is for sure: Thjs way of living is the ride of a lifetime. It allows us the pleasure of being true to ourselves. Of being able to give time for forgiveness (usually for me its about forgiving myself), of time spent day dreaming, time spent pursuing a passion without interruptions and much more.

Please do consider Pam's deschooling newsletter. I have met her and her children several times over a period of several days at a yearly unschooling camp we go to.  Since you are on FB, you can look up her daughter's beautiful photography and I think Pam talks about it on her blog. So Pam is real and her essays are real. 

And then you have your own local wonderbees... Urmila, Dola, Saraswati, Pradnya, Divya. Each with a unique perspective and some shared ones too. 

Love and hugs, Hema

On Fri, Sep 11, 2015 at 4:23 AM, DipallE' <dipalle_...@yahoo.com> wrote:

Thank you Dola for your explicit sharing . largely it's the same for me as far as keeping the extra baggage out is a great relief for me and Sonny.  Not having much physical or financial support from my family or sonny's father is tough but I don't have much expectations. As long as they leave me alone to do what I feel right I am happier not having them involved. My mother is an emotional support ongoing ly n at times financially.  Sonny's Dad Is Emotionally Present For sonny on skype every weekend as he lives in England n that's good for us too.   I am certain he will take care of sonny's further education or adult life if n when Sonny chooses to go there. For now we are enjoying a lot of fun bonding sharing n relaxing time together. Being away from the city has helped me to give total focus to him n creative moments all thru the day n night.  And I am deeply grateful that this is what I really wanted when I wished for a child.  To be part of every little thing he is interested in n watch him flower into who he feels he is. As a three yr old sonny one day stood before the alter n by himself started chanting " I always want to be who I am" it was a touching moment n I began praying " help me always kernel him be who he is. " I keep that on mind always.  Hugs Di Sent from Yahoo Mail on Android From:"Dola Dasgupta" <dol...@gmail.com> Date:Fri, 11 Sep, 2015 at 1:10 PM Subject:Re: Home schooling / Unschooling Yes Dipali, That is why the questions Hema asked were important..And I wanted you to reflect on how it felt responding to those questions.:) As for the challenges of being a single parent as Urmila has pointed out, well yes it is hard to be the only care giver for my children. And your and my situation is same in some ways but is also very different as in my case the kids' dad does chip in with some money, and emotionally now and then. I have full trust that he is there for them.But this trust was not there to start with. It has grown and evolved with lot of inner work for me and I am sure for him too. And I also have the support of my family, both financially and physically (till my mother is healthy).  Also as people we are very different and have very different desires and needs. And also very different drives towards life.  I have gone through this question of being a single parent and unschooling them many times over. And I have always felt, nothing changes, for a single parent, whether the children go to school or are unschooled. In fact I feel now, that it is much simpler for me to parent since they do not go to school. The external pressures of being in school and then as a single parent dealing with all that extra baggage that school and conventional society brings would have made it harder for me to raise my children as a single parent. I don't know anything about Vaibhavi and her son, her life. Would like to hear from her someday. I know Aparna and I feel despite her challenges she has beautifully raised Shuchita and homeschooled her and her ways were different from mine and Hema's or Urmila's.  So while the nitty gritties of unschooling are one thing, the real question that we as single mothers or non-single parents, need to ask ourselves is 'why is it important for us to take this path despite the huge challenges'... And there are many sets of challenges even for a double parent family. Love Dola  have answered them too. After responding to her questions how do you feel? While responding to the questions how were you feeling? Love Dola

oolers.in

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