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Br. Jerome Leo’s Daily Reflection on the Holy Rule
January 13, May 14, September 13
Chapter 2: What Kind of Person the Abbess Ought to Be (23-29)
In her teaching the Abbess should always follow the Apostle's formula: "Reprove, entreat, rebuke" (2 Tim. 4:2); threatening at one time and coaxing at another as the occasion may require, showing now the stern countenance of a mistress, now the loving affection of a mother. That is to say, it is the undisciplined and restless whom she must reprove rather sharply; it is the obedient, meek and patient whom she must entreat to advance in virtue; while as for the negligent and disdainful, these we charge her to rebuke and correct. And let her not shut her eyes to the faults of offenders; but, since she has the authority, let her cut out those faults by the roots as soon as they begin to appear, remembering the fate of Heli, the priest of Silo (1 Kings 2-4). The well-disposed and those of good understanding let her correct with verbal admonition the first and second time. But bold, hard, proud and disobedient characters she should curb at the very beginning of their ill-doing by stripes and other bodily punishments, knowing that it is written, "the fool is not corrected with words" (Prov. 18:2; 29:19), and again, "Beat your son with the rod, and you will deliver his soul from death"(Prov. 23:13-14).
REFLECTION
As our world grows more populated and less personalist, "One size fits all" becomes a favorite chant of marketing. We all know that's very often not true, and it is surely not true of parenting or governing, as St. Benedict points out. This chapter firmly contradicts the lie of such malarkey. We are all individuals, all treasures with different needs. Generic brand parenting will not do.
I was a miserable failure at discipline when teaching high school sophomore English. I am sure it is an experience neither they nor I would like to repeat. I tried to treat them like college students or adults, a point they had not reached. In my naiveté, I expected them to respond in kind. When they didn't, matters escalated between us, but not into anything that did much good.
I was terribly at fault: I didn't see who they were, I gave them what *I* would have liked to have had, but I was already in my mid-thirties with a lot of life experience. I wasn't serving their needs, because I didn't know who they were, nor, in that first year, did I even know how to find out! So, like many before me, I substituted what I would want or need and proclaimed that one size would fit all. Wrong!
Any abbess or parent who wants to try my way, not St. Benedict's, will quickly find that it is as hard on them as it is on their charges. My year of teaching high school English was horrible and I hated it. My students had a rough time, too. It was terrible for both of us at many points. The light that entered in from time to time, the genuine enjoyment of each other was only a flash that appeared rarely, faded too soon. I pray for those kids (and for those who taught me!) every day of my life.
St. Benedict is not only moderate and balanced, he sees the person clearly. He is a personalist of the first rank. Practice his principles of government without the checks and balances of this portion and you will be very displeased with the results. It sometimes takes St. Benedict a while to make his point. Cut him short before he has, and you will often wind up very sorry. Always let him finish: the whole is a thing of beauty, but the parts may fall far short of that.
Mercifully, God alone can bring good out of anything, so He can even use our wrong-headedness to bring others to Him. To a certain point, some people thrive on a lot of leeway, others do not. Some people need rigid order, others will wither under that. A superior who is into super control will soon be left with none but those who need that and a few conflicted types who can at least endure it.
A superior who is too easy-going can also do harm. Sad is the community where the only thing that will ever get all the horses back into the barn is death, and a few of such exist.
This is no different from the message throughout the Holy Rule: concern for the other, not the self, eyes on God for the good of all! And, as the old-timers would say: "Keep your eyes on your own choir stall." Trust me, you will ALWAYS find plenty to keep you busy there if you are honest with yourself!
Br. Jerome Leo Hughes, OSB (RIP)
Br. Jerome Leo’s Daily Reflection on the Holy Rule
January 13, May 14, September 13
Chapter 2: What Kind of Person the Abbess Ought to Be (23-29)
In her teaching the Abbess should always follow the Apostle's formula: "Reprove, entreat, rebuke" (2 Tim. 4:2); threatening at one time and coaxing at another as the occasion may require, showing now the stern countenance of a mistress, now the loving affection of a mother. That is to say, it is the undisciplined and restless whom she must reprove rather sharply; it is the obedient, meek and patient whom she must entreat to advance in virtue; while as for the negligent and disdainful, these we charge her to rebuke and correct. And let her not shut her eyes to the faults of offenders; but, since she has the authority, let her cut out those faults by the roots as soon as they begin to appear, remembering the fate of Heli, the priest of Silo (1 Kings 2-4). The well-disposed and those of good understanding let her correct with verbal admonition the first and second time. But bold, hard, proud and disobedient characters she should curb at the very beginning of their ill-doing by stripes and other bodily punishments, knowing that it is written, "the fool is not corrected with words" (Prov. 18:2; 29:19), and again, "Beat your son with the rod, and you will deliver his soul from death"(Prov. 23:13-14).
REFLECTION
As our world grows more populated and less personalist, "One size fits all" becomes a favorite chant of marketing. We all know that's very often not true, and it is surely not true of parenting or governing, as St. Benedict points out. This chapter firmly contradicts the lie of such malarkey. We are all individuals, all treasures with different needs. Generic brand parenting will not do.
I was a miserable failure at discipline when teaching high school sophomore English. I am sure it is an experience neither they nor I would like to repeat. I tried to treat them like college students or adults, a point they had not reached. In my naiveté, I expected them to respond in kind. When they didn't, matters escalated between us, but not into anything that did much good.
I was terribly at fault: I didn't see who they were, I gave them what *I* would have liked to have had, but I was already in my mid-thirties with a lot of life experience. I wasn't serving their needs, because I didn't know who they were, nor, in that first year, did I even know how to find out! So, like many before me, I substituted what I would want or need and proclaimed that one size would fit all. Wrong!
Any abbess or parent who wants to try my way, not St. Benedict's, will quickly find that it is as hard on them as it is on their charges. My year of teaching high school English was horrible and I hated it. My students had a rough time, too. It was terrible for both of us at many points. The light that entered in from time to time, the genuine enjoyment of each other was only a flash that appeared rarely, faded too soon. I pray for those kids (and for those who taught me!) every day of my life.
St. Benedict is not only moderate and balanced, he sees the person clearly. He is a personalist of the first rank. Practice his principles of government without the checks and balances of this portion and you will be very displeased with the results. It sometimes takes St. Benedict a while to make his point. Cut him short before he has, and you will often wind up very sorry. Always let him finish: the whole is a thing of beauty, but the parts may fall far short of that.
Mercifully, God alone can bring good out of anything, so He can even use our wrong-headedness to bring others to Him. To a certain point, some people thrive on a lot of leeway, others do not. Some people need rigid order, others will wither under that. A superior who is into super control will soon be left with none but those who need that and a few conflicted types who can at least endure it.
A superior who is too easy-going can also do harm. Sad is the community where the only thing that will ever get all the horses back into the barn is death, and a few of such exist.
This is no different from the message throughout the Holy Rule: concern for the other, not the self, eyes on God for the good of all! And, as the old-timers would say: "Keep your eyes on your own choir stall." Trust me, you will ALWAYS find plenty to keep you busy there if you are honest with yourself!
Br. Jerome Leo Hughes, OSB (RIP)
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