http://wherein.posterous.com/a-negotiated-settlement
which I submitted for discussion here:
http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=2553153
My six year-old son was actually bartering prices down from our
starting points, clearly responding to my wife's efforts to resist my
daughter's bid to increase prices. I think what you're seeing is a
young child's simple desire to please. Barring catastrophe, they will
grow beyond that.
The kids help around the house. But they are also getting old enough
to realize they have goals of their own unrelated and at times in
conflict with the family's plan, especially our 9 yo daughter. She's
getting crafty, clearly willing to negotiate. Which warms my heart.
But, rather than negotiating every single chore, which can be
extremely time-consuming and often counter-productive, I thought it
made sense to negotiate a settlement. How much do you pay? Enough to
take money off the table. This also gives them a framework for more
sophisticated negotiations, and provides them an object lesson in the
contracting process, and some experience with the difference between
salaried work and fee-for-service.
This also gives us a privilege we can take away, so, like timeouts,
it's a negative reinforcer if necessary. Not the main goal, but a
potentially useful side effect (eg: the prime rule at the top of the
list is that chores will be done with dignity and respect, or no
payment will be rendered).
They also get the opportunity to save money. My daughter managed to
save over $100 (over several months) just from picking up dog poo. I
didn't save $100 inflation-adjusted dollars by the age of 8: that's
about $50 when I was a kid, according to Bureau of Labor Statistics,
which I didn't save until I got a paper route in the summer after 4th
grade.
Really, if they do everything, we get a clean house daily for about
$20-30 a week. Find a maid that will work at those rates.
Really, if they do everything, we get a clean house daily for about
$20-30 a week. Find a maid that will work at those rates.