I'm not entirely sure how to deal with these situations as he doesn't
respond to firm commands like "don't touch" or "stop"
Agree with the other answer, basically, "do nothing".
You can't punish a kid under the age of about 18 months to 2 years.
Well, you can, but there's no point - they don't understand. They
don't make the connection between their action and the punishment.
These sorts of fits are basically "I want something and I didn't get
it and I don't know how to get my message across to you idiots". You
can reduce them by trying to show the kid how to communicate with you
- use your words, point to what you want, don't throw things,
whatever. It'll take a while. But during the fit, I'd just let it
go, try to show him that the fit won't get him what he wants.
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Michael Sims
It seems you're getting a bit freaked out by tantrums. Don't. They are
normal. As others have said, ignore them. So long as the tantrum isn't
happening at the top of stairs or similar don't move the kid. If they
bonk their head on a table leg it can be a good learning experience.
When I was a young 'un I threw a wobbly in a toy shop. My mum told me
to move so I didn't get hit by the door. So I got up, moved to a clear
patch of floor, and then resumed. Goes to show that a tantrum is
reasonably volitional, at least in older kids.
During normal interaction demonstrate to the kid how to ask for things.
N.
My daughter is two and a half now and has pretty much stopped the
throwing-herself-on-the-ground tantrums, but she still doesn't deal
well with being told "no." She'll try to scream and cry until she gets
what she wants. I've tried all sorts of responses to that, but the
best—by far—is to just pretend she isn't there. Once she figures out
that she isn't getting under my skin, she stops crying. It's
especially effective in the car.
There's one exception, though. It's rare, but every now and then, she
seems to lose control. She'll get so worked up about something that
the crying will take on a life of it's own, and she'll be crying
because she's upset that she can't stop crying, and scared because she
can't control her emotions. At least that's my theory. It's pretty
obvious when she switches over from "I'm mad" to "I need comforting"
and then it's best to pick her up, give her a hug, tell her it's ok,
and then do something silly to make her laugh.
Colin