For all the software devs out there, I'm curious about how other people use and live with databases, specifically the types of tools they use around their database to simplify work with it. For background info, what database(s) do you use, and what is the scope of your project? What kind of tools do you use to manage change with your database (implicit or explicit schema, server deployments, etc.)? What kind of "generator" tools are you using (thick- or thin-ORM, data access layers, whatever)? What pain points do you still experience? Thanks!
For myself, I have worked on a lot of custom enterprise resource planning systems over the years. Data is generally small, and highly relational. It's been mostly SQL Server, but there is some MySQL in there too. In other words, all pretty basic RDBMSs. I've played around with ORM systems like NHibernate and Entity Framework, found them quite useful for designing the initial database, but lacking something in the long run for any time changes were necessary after a nontrivial amount of data had been recorded. As a result, I've tended to try to leave the database changing in the database realm and use only a thin ORM (direct table mapping) with classes automatically generated from the schema. This seems to avoid lost data problems, but comes at a high development cost for constantly repeating yourself and not having change management ala source control in place.
Redgate has a tool called SQL Compare that I've used in the past that makes diffing and merging databases a snap, but it is very expensive. Without a SQL Compare-like tool, it's really easy to miss changes to tables and stored procedures without extremely comprehensive testing (and really, who does that?) when deploying from a development- to testing- or production-environment.