I have a question...
Ztirfebem
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There are two people PersonA and PersonB who are in a relationship.
PersonA and PersonB have been sexually active. PersonA would like PersonB to
perform oral sex on PersonA. PersonA and PersonB have both been tested for
STD's and have the documentation to show what the results are. PersonA and
PersonB both say to each other that they do not have and STD's. However
PersonB is cautious and would like to see the documentation for themselves
before engaging in any unprotected sex.
Is the request of PersonB an unreasonable request?
PersonA is now mad at PersonB because they want to see the documentation.
PersonA feels that PersonB does not trust them. PersonB tries to explain that
they do trust them, but are not willing to risk their health based on the word
of another person no matter who they are.
Should PersonB just take the word of PersonA and accept that the verbal
information given is correct?
Roving Reporter
>I would like to know what others think about this situation I'm in.
>Thanks. Please send your responses to ztir...@aol.com.
Actually the norm is to reply to the group. But I'm nice, I will
e-mail you in addition.
>There are two people PersonA and PersonB who are in a relationship.
>PersonA and PersonB have been sexually active. PersonA would like PersonB to
>perform oral sex on PersonA. PersonA and PersonB have both been tested for
>STD's and have the documentation to show what the results are. PersonA and
>PersonB both say to each other that they do not have and STD's. However
>PersonB is cautious and would like to see the documentation for themselves
>before engaging in any unprotected sex.
>
>Is the request of PersonB an unreasonable request?
No, I'd want the same thing.
>PersonA is now mad at PersonB because they want to see the documentation.
>PersonA feels that PersonB does not trust them. PersonB tries to explain that
>they do trust them, but are not willing to risk their health based on the word
>of another person no matter who they are.
This should have been arranged in advance. Now it does look like
PersonB thinks PersonA is a liar. Pre-arrangement of what would be
done would take care of this. I.E. "We'll go for testing together and
then when we both have our results, we'll get together for lunch/soft
drinks/whatever and discuss the results."
>Should PersonB just take the word of PersonA and accept that the verbal
>information given is correct?
No, and neither should PersonA about PersonB. To be fair though,
disclosure should be mutual.
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Angelani
be cautious is to be safe and people should understand that. I agree with
"Roving Reporter". A good time would make it easier to discuss a "too bad
it exits" topic.