For whatever reason, I never saw your original message. I'm sorry you're going through all this.
I'm not diabetic, but I have a family history. So, when I had a chance to beta test a glucometer about 8 years ago, I went for it. Unfortunately, I had problems getting enough blood, and for whatever reason, those finger sticks really hurt. I've also given myself shots every day, and that was nothing by comparison.
Anyway, I have a few resources and/or tips that might help. Both ACB and NFB have diabetes-related groups.
I think if I had to monitor my blood sugar, I'd try and get the unit described in a podcast interview I did for BlindAlive.
Here's the link:
BlindAlive is going out of business as of tomorrow. I think there's going to be a very basic website with the workouts, but I think the podcasts are going away. So, I'd suggest looking at the podcast and show notes before that if you can.
Regarding using a standard glucometer, it never got really easy for me, but here are some things I found helpful. They say you can stick your palm or forearm, but finding the right place to line up with the strip was nearly impossible. I know it sounds a little silly, but going through the motions helped me. So, for example, I'd touch the pen to the place I was going to prick, then touch that finger to the strip. I'd do this about 3 times before actually pushing the button to use the needle.
I found that I had better chances of getting enough blood if my hands were warm and/or my circulation was good. So, I'd either run my hands under warm water, or I'd walk for about five minutes, swinging my arms and/or raising them over my head to get the blood flowing.
I really hope some of this helps. Please let us know how you're doing!