The solution was simple (well it only
took me a couple of hours to figure out.)
I remapped the axis dead_man button from 4 to 6 in the
xbox joystick launch file.
I can drive my Neato. (Now I have to program the
Raspberry pi and engineer a power supply for it.)
Since my controller was free and worked with a blue
tooth dongle, I won't have to buy an Xbox 360 with a separate darn giant
dongle. I thought about stealing my kid's, but since he is now bigger than
me I figured I better not.
A nice trick to figure out the buttons was using
rostopic echo /joy. You can then run the controller and see which button
is being pressed.