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da5zeay

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May 13, 2006, 5:38:26 PM5/13/06
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I was just browsing some old websites I used to visit a lot. I haven't
looked at them in years, but they're still on my bookmark page. It
occured to me that I was no longer climbing "that ladder".

The old sites were related to professional graphic design and game
development, but most of what I click on these days are related to more
grassroots bootstrapping issues: making stuff, diy, productivity,
things that kick butt, and people empowering themselves through various
means. When I looked at the old sites, I felt a brief flicker of
interest, but it quickly passed when I remembered what it was like to
be on that ladder. I used to think it was that I didn't like ladders,
rat races, and so on, but now I think it was the feeling that people
were clinging to the ladder, and that they were dependent on it for a
sense of self-worth.

Right now I'm making my own ladder, and it's kind of a creeky thing
cobbled together out of bits of other ladders. I don't think it's even
going UP sometimes. Even though I'm thinking "cool, I'm on my own
ladder", at the same time I still have the "ladder mentality" and am
thinking maybe that's no different than clinging to it.

So there are two issues:

The first: Climbing / going up is a natural desire I think, until we
find a level we're comfortable with. Maybe it's not so much that I have
a tall ladder, but a low flat mound that I can run around on top rather
than swaying very high and majestically for all to see.

The second: Height is achievement. Height is also scary. Managing the
two must be part of the art of being happy.

Just random thoughts...it's raining out and it's put me in a reflective
mood. It's been raining all week it seems, so I am going to go out for
a walk and see what that's like...haven't done that in a long time.

Think_n_See

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May 16, 2006, 11:45:40 PM5/16/06
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What is a person more afraid of: fear of success or fear of failure?

Sure, people don't want to fail.
Hence, small successes are the way to go to big up to larger successes.


At the same time, people often don't recignize that they also are
afraid of succeeding - not exactly that, but afraid of succeeding for
the wrong reasons, in the wrong way, in way that makes them
uncomfortable. What - in detail - can you deal with on the way to
success? Probably, quite a lot.

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