We’re all volunteers.
Unless we’re talking about a clear-cut issue (e.g., major profanity, spam, personal attacks that are at a level far, far above a charge of cherry-picking data) moderating GSOM isn’t the #1 thing on any of our priority lists.
I might have been more than happy to warn him once I was sure that I understood what the conflict was and what he was doing that was wrong. But that’s the thing: I’m not going to substitute your judgement for mine, and if that feels like a betrayal, then tough.
But I glanced at it, felt like you were both acting like sub-optimally, and felt like it was inappropriate for me to step in with deletions and warnings unless I was very clear about what the problem was and who was to blame. With my cursory glance, that wasn’t obvious but I also didn’t see any fires that needed to be put out right away, so I figured somebody else would figure it out or I’d deal with it when I had more time, and I had dinner plans.
I take moderation seriously and try to err on the side of not hiding/warning. Most personal squabbles peter out in a few days with or without any moderator action.
He reached out to me, but I hadn’t responded to him, either - for the same reason I hadn’t responded to you: I wasn’t confident that I understood the situation.
-Ron