I think, i've misunderstood the spec slightly and also checked examples (e.g. route_guide callback client/server). noting here for reference
to answer my question (rephrased slightly):
if one has no holds and one calls StartWrite (outside of a reactor) in an app thread and OnDone() is called by grpc library thread - this is possible... and
from what i understand the spec __does not__ say anything about this situation - I mean to me not clear what happens...!
The suggested way to avoid it in here is to add a hold before StartCall and remove it when onWriteDone returns not ok.
1 thing, for me was not clear, given the spec says "the above calls may take place concurrently, except that `OnDone` will always take place after all other reactions"
what this really means is that if u are __directly reading/writing__ from within a reactor, u do not need holds, u need them only if you are reading/writing from outside of the reactor... the client_callback.h even states that this is __not__ an common use of streaming api... which is a bit strange to me, may be i'm biased...
thanks!
VK