02/02/08 Weekend Grif.Net - The Stranger
Dr Bob Griffin
A few years after I was born, my dad met a stranger who was new to our small
Clover, South Carolina, town. From the beginning, Dad was fascinated with
this enchanting newcomer and soon invited him to live with our family. The
stranger was quickly accepted and was around from then on.
As I grew up, I never questioned his place in my family. In my young mind,
he had a special niche. My parents were complementary instructors: Mom
taught me good from evil, and Dad taught me to obey. But the stranger... he
was our storyteller. He would keep us spellbound for hours on end with
adventures, mysteries, and comedies.
If I wanted to know anything about politics, history or science, he always
knew the answers about the past, understood the present and even seemed able
to predict the future!
He took my family to the first major league ball game. He made me laugh, and
he made me cry. The stranger never stopped talking, but Dad didn't seem to
mind.
Sometimes, Mom would get up quietly while the rest of us were shushing each
other to listen to what he had to say, and she would go to the kitchen for
peace and quiet. (I wonder now if she ever prayed for the stranger to leave)
Dad ruled our household with certain moral convictions, but the stranger
never felt obligated to honor them. Profanity, for example, was not allowed
in our home... not from us, our friends or any visitors. Our longtime
visitor, however, got away with four-letter words that burned my ears and
made my dad squirm and my mother blush.
My dad didn't permit the liberal use of alcohol. But the stranger encouraged
us to try it on a regular basis. He made cigarettes look cool, cigars manly,
and pipes distinguished. He talked freely (much too freely) about sex. His
comments were sometimes blatant, sometimes suggestive, and generally
embarrassing.
I now know that my early concepts about relationships were influenced
strongly by the stranger. Time after time, he opposed the values of my
parents, Yet he was seldom rebuked.. And NEVER asked to leave.
More than fifty years have passed since the stranger moved in with our
family. He has blended right in and is not nearly as fascinating as he was
at first. If you could walk into my parents' den today, you would still find
him sitting over in his corner, waiting for someone to listen to him talk
and watch him draw his pictures.
His name? We just call him by the initials "TV." And he has a wife now. We
call her "Computer".
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Dr Bob Griffin, www.grif.net
"Jesus knows me, this I love"