Sven,
Bessel Zero
a very accurate method of setting FM deviation, which can be done
using GQRX, is the Bessel Zero method. In practical terms:
a) set a particular audio modulation frequency
b) increase the deviation from zero until the carrier frequency level is reduced to zero
c) a narrow bandwidth spectrum analyser can be used for this, or a receiver in CW mode, set to narrow bandwidth
There is a reasonably clear explanation of the method at https://www.qsl.net/g3oou/fmdeviation.html, a description of its use in practice at https://ramdor.co.uk/2021/03/18/fm-deviation-using-bessel-zero-method/, and another in-practice article at https://www.rtl-sdr.com/measuring-frequency-deviation-fm-transmitter-rtl-sdr/.
More adventurous
As one might hope, a brave soul has designed a direct FM deviation
meter using GNU Radio. It’s on GitHub at https://github.com/mpvano/FMDeviance.
Carson’s Rule
The problem with Carson’s rule is that it is very much an
approximation. It was pulled out of thin air,
probably after a pub lunch.
HTH, 73,
Robin, G8DQX