The Intimate Relationships by Miller is an interesting look at how much conflict there exists between two people in a relationship. Miller, who was a clinical psychologist for many years, delves deep into the mind of a man who has been married for 20 years and has children. His research shows that when a couple quarrels often the issues end up in divorce. When one party has an affair, it can destroy the other partner's sense of trust in the relationship. The book talks about how the newlyweds can heal their relationship after an affair if they are willing to work on it and not be afraid of the future.

There are several different things that make a relationship work. One of the keys is trust, but sometimes there is just too much difference of opinion and the relationship starts to suffer. Sometimes this happens when there are infrequent arguments and the only fight that occur are over things like kids or money. When a couple has differences about which parent should get the kids or who should pay the bills, they tend to fight about those things more than anything else. When one partner has an affair, it destroys the marriage even before the affair has taken place.
While everyone experiences conflict every now and then, there are certain ways to resolve conflicts and still keep a relationship going strong. One of the key components is to figure out what caused the problem in the first place and how it can be resolved. In this book, Miller talks about how to talk about the problem with the person concerned and makes it clear that the marriage will only be stronger when the issues are talked about. He also provides helpful advice for how to rebuild trust after an affair.